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Dealing with partner's past (6)


1 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-01-26 14:43 ID:NV38UPyK

I have been with my girlfriend for about two years now. I'm 20 and she's 18. We've been through a lot, breaking up just to be back with each other. Currently we're just happy being together.

Lately we have been talking a lot about our past experiences. I have discovered that she had been hiding a lot from me. We talked about how way before she met me, she had flings with people she met in a bar. I also discovered that at the age of 14, she had her first kiss inside a bar with a stranger she barely knew (she said she was a bit drunk, underage and all, was with her 21 year old cousin).

I really had no problems with that, just became a bit insecure. I assured her that that doesn't change the way I feel for her. Although it made me feel very uncomfortable inside that she was like that at a very young age. I felt that she's hiding a lot from me. I know that the past should just remain that, the past. However there is a burning urge inside me that wants to know exactly how she was before she met me, and her past experiences if any.

When I try to start a conversation leading to that, she just avoided it in a very suspicious way, as if there's something she didn't want me to know. This may just be paranoia, but I just want to know, without it leading to anything, just me knowing everything about her and her past.

Anyone who feels the same way about their partner? How do I convince her to open up to me?