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Girls wanting to bring friends when you ask them out to somewhere (28)

1 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-02-10 17:02 ID:whqgnEGy

Like you ask them out to go somewhere and they are like who else is going and I'm like err no one? Then when you do go out just with her shes like I was gonna bring so and so. What's up with this? Then sometimes she agrees to go somewhere then after she asks if any other ppl are coming then she changes her mind and not come. Why?

2 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-02-10 19:06 ID:LKtepLhy


3 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-02-10 21:07 ID:HBR6B0aZ

It can mean anything;

· She is very interested in you, but too shy to show that
· She is interested in you, but only as a friend

4 Name: da PG king : 2008-02-10 22:12 ID:+u9vezHO

Shes saying "I like you, but I dont know enough to trust you."

She could be worried that there is something about you that she doesnt know about ie. your a date rapist.

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5 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-02-10 22:14 ID:HBR6B0aZ


He doesn't really need to ask her. Just hang out with her and have fun, you will most certainly know after some dates

6 Name: da PG king : 2008-02-10 22:31 ID:+u9vezHO


7 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-02-10 23:11 ID:XsC7cs3N

so what should i do?

8 Name: da PG king : 2008-02-10 23:19 ID:+u9vezHO

let her bring someone...

If it makes her feel more comfortable.

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9 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-02-10 23:36 ID:b8nmXcrV

if brings someone else, let it slide that time but let her know when you asked her out, you were only asking her.

and if she wants to bring a friend and tells you before hand, then you bring friend to handle her friend.

10 Name: da PG king : 2008-02-10 23:41 ID:+u9vezHO

To add to the person above- careful how you let her know.

Cause if she slapps you in the face...

11 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-02-11 23:03 ID:uSNhuLWY

she wanted to bring them several times i have asked her now

12 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-02-12 09:44 ID:vFGrsT+s

Sounds like she doesn't want to be alone with you. In my opinion, you've been 'friended'.

13 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-02-12 18:24 ID:kA9eWa9w

what should i do then?

14 Name: da PG king : 2008-02-12 19:09 ID:dHsdWUy8

grab her tits!

15 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-02-12 21:17 ID:vFGrsT+s


Not much really, chances are you've missed this opportunity, but you can still elarn from it. Perhaps you were a bit too forward in pursuing her when she wasn't sure about you. It helps to "play it cool", so that her interest is sparked enough that she wants to see you to find out whether you do like her or not. Theres nothing wrong with her bringing her friends to the first meeting, but if she keeps bringing them then it's more likely she wants them there to make sure you don't do something silly like confess your love or try to kiss her. You may still have a chance though, just try to play it cool and get to know her even if it is around her friends as well. It helps to get on well with her friends as well, in case she is asking for their impressions of you before taking things further.

16 Name: da PG king : 2008-02-12 21:38 ID:+u9vezHO


17 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-02-13 02:28 ID:kA9eWa9w

she sometimes asks to bring my friends too...

18 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-02-14 22:58 ID:vFGrsT+s

a)She wants to know you aren't actually a loser and do have friend of your own
b)She wants to meet some of your friends and see if she fancies any of them

19 Name: 1 What to do at your girlfriend's parties? : 2008-02-14 23:15 ID:ch0049zs

>>1...u stole my title!!

20 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-02-15 15:33 ID:z+T719Z1

I'm a girl. When I say that to a guy, it definitely means i have absolutely no interest in him romanticaly, but probably think he seems cool enough to introduce to my friends. Possibly I am looking for their opinion on him as well as continuing to judge his suitability, but probably not. In fact, it is likely to mean that I really can't stand the thought of being alone with him, and want him to understand i'm not interested.

21 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-02-18 02:44 ID:LGFFx8cH

>>14 / >>16

This isn't 4chan's /b/. Grow up or get out.

22 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-02-23 13:20 ID:n+gHs6ZL

>>4 I agree (girl here)

>>17 Asking you to bring friends might be her way of making this less awkward for you. If she brings girl friends and you brought the same number of guys friends, her friends and your friends could chat, leaving time for the two of you. She'd still be in a situation she's comfortable with (friend safety-net). Also, it's way easier on conversation, less awkward silences. It'd give her a better chance to figure out if she's into you, instead of worrying and feeling wierd the whole time.

23 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-02-25 04:31 ID:LGFFx8cH

>>22 If she's smart, she's possibly also doing it because a guy's friends can reveal embarrassing secrets, provide opportunity to see how much of a dick he may actually be when with his friends instead of one on one, and can show what his subjects of interest really are by watching the guys interact.

24 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-02-25 08:38 ID:Ie9zQxrw

Yea, it's good to hear about a guy from his friends.

25 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-02-27 01:24 ID:TFy45EcP

Whenever that happened to me, I'd been "Friend Zone'd".
But good luck, anyways.
Maybe one of her friends could be a better shot...

26 Name: Number1 : 2008-03-10 17:06 ID:K8+P+uW3

That's completely normal!
Don't think so negatively man! She might be shy to go out with u on her own...

27 Name: Chou : 2008-03-10 22:51 ID:hfMZW/vP

Sometimes bringing a friend could be a good or bad thing. Maybe she needs a second opinion, which means you should try to get on good terms with her friend, without ignoring your lady friend. Or she's just thinks your a friend and doesn't want to turn you down because you may be 'a nice guy'

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28 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-03-17 12:54 ID:YTc8TF8w

I've done the whole "bring a friend along" thing. Most of the time it's because I don't trust being alone with the guy. Other times it's because I reckon I won't be able to keep a running conversation so I b.y.o an icebreaker. Either way, she doesn't particularly want to be alone with you until she either: knows you better, or establishes a clear friend zone.