>>The other word for that is becoming mature and self-reliant.
The other word for those is being a hypocrite. I don't know about you but after having been an adult myself for some time, hanging out with other adults on an equal level, I've come to the conclusion that maturity and self-reliance is all pretense.
So why would I want that in a girlfriend? Grownups are fucking childish, so it just irritates me that they try to hide it, it's nothing but a waste of time and energy. It would be better for everyone if we were just honest with ourselves and eachother.