I have this friend of mine that I've been planning on asking out, but I haven't been able to do it. I mean he's really nice, and I think I'm over the LOL RELATIONSHIP DRAMA! everyone else seems to have, but maybe I'm going a little to fast and I don't want to ruin a good friendship if it doesn't work out. I see him everyday so it'd get kind of awkward. And I'd feel guilty if it worked out because I heard from a friend that someone else likes me, but didn't do anything about it when he/she heard that I wasn't interested in dating at the time. In the past when a guy would ask me out, I'd turn him away. Could I be initiating the relationship to keep from losing control or was I really not ready? Someone help me sort out my teen drama pls! D:
This is the crucial moment. As if you were the cannon ball inside the fateful cannon. "Load 'er up, matey!" cries the peg-legged, one-eyed dread pirate Brownbeard. Tension sends chills down the crew's spines as they rush around the deck. Fire! Off you go, you are flying over the ocean, you can see the waves crashing wildly below you, your stomach leaps in the air and your short flight seems to last forever. But then again, it is over only too quickly. Rushing head on are the innocent wooden planks of the enemy ship. Your course is now unstoppable, any regrets you might have about being a cannonball are unimportant. There is a decided fate for you at this point: you will sink the ship.
s0meone said 'ask him out'
>>my teen drama
I tried asking him if he wanted to hang out this weekend, but he's got something to do with his family D:
I kinda realise we'd make a bad couple
Don't give up just because of one weekend. That's like spreading peanut butter on your bread but then realizing there's no jelly, so you just throw it away. No, eat the mother fucking peanut butter sandwich, you can buy some more jelly at the store anyway so it doesn't even matter what matters is the present gift permeating like rain through a thin umbrella one with holes you got it for too cheap from a street vendor, and so it does little good, but you keep carrying it around during rainstorms just because of the way it makes you look and the way it makes you feel. Like a cat's toes or a wooden towel rack.
>>6 In other words, the experience of dating can be good. Otherwise, ponder love and yourself more so that you're ready for when you do decide to date. (Ie, so that you know your views on love and have self-confidence)
I've never been the type of person to carry around an umbrella I wouldn't use, no matter how it makes me feel. And if there were no jelly available, I'd just find some jam or bananas, or save the piece of bread for later, it's not like it's going to grow legs and begin to walk by itself by the time I buy some. I don't want to rush anything, especially if neither of us are ready. And I really don't think I'm ready just yet. I can't even support myself, how could I support someone else? And please don't say the power of love, I've heard it too many times from people whose relationships have failed.
Date rape him. It will remove the awkwardness.
If I could get a date with him first
Maybe I should just stop beating around the bush and ask him out already... I have this Japanese resturant in mind, or is that too formal for a first date?
Japanese restaurant is nice, and you can talk. Now depending on where you're living, might be bit too exotic,...
Otherwise I'm with cannonball man!
This is one of those moments where I look at a post and just wonder "Why?".
Not too exotic at all, though it is sort of fancy. There's this Indian place I've been wanting to check out that seems a little less formal. Why can I only think of food? Any other suggestions for what to do?
Pick something you enjoy or think you'd enjoy doing (and if you know him, something you think he'd enjoy?).
Bowling? Bowling's fun.
There is this girl that I know that every time I set up a date, she splits off and doesnt show. She claims Im not being screwed with, and I dont know, but I do know how I feel about her. I wish that I could tell her how I feel. Dont make the same mistakes of others.
Hmm, can't do bowling with just the two of us
Afternoon at an art gallery sounds good, but he's an art student and it may just remind him of school >.<
Girls have this advantage that they could actually do that and it would be fine. I'm frustrated by the lack of straightforwardness, especially since I can't take a hint.
> Next time a girl want to watch a romantic chick flick with me and puts her head in my lap, I'm whipping out my cock
A popcorn bucket with a hole in the bottom is much more subtle.
It wouldn't be fine, rape is bad. Girls just try it less, and the guy's usually too embarrased to admit to being raped by a girl, so he acts like he wanted it.
If he's an art student, chances are he actually enjoys looking at art, so I wouldn't worry too much about it reminding him of school. I would suggest trying to find an art exhibition thats not the same old portraits etc, maybe something a bit more modern and fun, perhaps something participatory? Then you can bounce ideas off each other about what the art means etc.
Usually it's the comparatively weak physical strength, lower sex drive, absence of aggressive and competitive behaviour, and the lack of a penis that prevents women from raping men.
lower sex drive? lol
different sex drive? Now we're talking, see lack of penis
I saw him, but I was rushing so I totally forgot to get his phone number. Crud.
Then she thinks in some backwards way she's justified, when she's just a bitch.
We never got around to actually going out.
I feel kinda bad because I made the plans and had to cancel because I realised I didn't have any money and didn't want him to pay because I asked him out. And he was at the movies waiting for me. Well, this is going to be an awkward Monday.
He's going to think you're just toying with him, to be honest. But hang in there! Don't give up hope! Make up for it by showing him that you're really serious.
But I also have to second guess you. I mean, not having any money is widely regarded as a bullshit excuse to cancel a date. I'm sure you could have borrowed some money or went to an ATM or somehow otherwise procured some cash. Are you subconsciously trying to sabotage this relationship because you're afraid of getting hurt?
If your money thing was indeed true, you can just go and tell him. I'm a guy, and I like women who make themselves clear - it saves us a whole lot of trouble.
"Uh, ya know, I cancelled cause I was outta cash, and I didn't wanna make ya pay." would sound nice. Maybe a bit broke (of course!) but it's a good start. So you can just add something like "But if you want, we can do something that doesn't require spending at all. I wanted to see <insert something you could buy LATER ON, or just same lame excuse here please>, you wanna go with me?".