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Can only get fuckbuddies, but no girlfriend (21)

1 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-03-14 00:08 ID:2+aAxdEh

I have a bit of a problem right now in my life.

Recently, I just got out of a casual sexual relationship that was quite fun. Hot, sweaty, no-hole-unplugged all-night-every-night sex/BDSM play with a female friend of mine... whew, it was amazing!

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2 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-03-14 00:51 ID:R0WrwSGW

>>1 Perhaps the best advice I can give you consists of two things: A) Forget about sex entirely for at least the first few weeks (unless she brings it up), and focus instead on learning about new women and discovering what you are interested in in life (and then relating that to them), and B) talking to women in general who you aren't interested in having sex with. They're great for asking how to approach relationships.

3 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-03-14 02:59 ID:2+aAxdEh


>>A) Forget about sex entirely for at least the first few weeks
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4 Name: little fox : 2008-03-14 03:29 ID:ErbSDq7A

So, then, leave the sex at all. I mean, genitally ;), because sex is our conformation: you know: male - female hehehe. I mean, sex is a part, not the whole. You can't catch the whole by sex, and what I guess you want is a woman (a entire person), not just those square cms called erotic zones ;)

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5 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-03-14 12:18 ID:AyYXL9vO

Do you have any idea why your romantic relationships fail? Don't you notice a pattern?

Hard to say anything without further information, but intuitively it seems like maybe you're not interested enough in the girl you're aiming for?

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6 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-03-14 18:47 ID:2+aAxdEh

>>Do you have any idea why your romantic relationships fail? Don't you notice a pattern?

I have only noticed one pattern, and it's quite tragic: every person I have ever been in a relationship with- every single one- has cheated on me or left me for another person. Not just left me or broke things off with me; left me for another person. Not a single exception. Seriously, all 4 break-ups I have experienced in my young life has ended with "I'm sorry... but... I've found someone else" (except in 1 exception, where I only found out 2 weeks after the fact that she was boinkin' a good friend of mine). Some luck, neh?

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7 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-03-14 21:10 ID:OKYoIPy2

Well,... In that case in think you are perhaps rushing things, and starting the relationship too soon,... Get to know the girl well before going out with her.

8 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-03-14 21:57 ID:2+aAxdEh

I make it an effort to NOT rush things... I don't like to come across as a fuckin' wussbag. Clingy, desperate behavior turns women off immediately. In fact, I think it is my chill, laid-back, and slightly-cocky behavior (sarcastic, but with a humorous, charming tone) that makes me popular with women and makes it easy to get them into my bed.

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9 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-03-14 22:06 ID:2+aAxdEh

Oh, and another thing:
I have noticed that some of my guy friends are like "Dude, how do you get all those chicks?! Teach me your ways!" and I do show them the ropes. They use my techniques, and they all end up finding stable girlfriends. I... end up getting my dick sucked in the bathroom.

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10 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-03-15 02:06 ID:gIaBcdcx


Goddamn, I wish you'd come over here and rock my world and my bed. Someone with a little self-confidence is exactly what I need right now.

11 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-03-15 02:22 ID:2+aAxdEh

Heh, good to see I'm charming even on 4-ch.

A guy friend of mine said tonight "Dude, I wish I had your problem!"

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12 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-03-15 22:14 ID:2+aAxdEh

You know what?

Forget it. I'll worry about this when I go back to school in the Fall. Until then, I'm gonna keep playin' around and doing my thing.

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13 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-03-16 11:39 ID:Heaven

After reading >>12 I feel like we've all been taken on a ride by a certain fag.

14 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-03-22 03:05 ID:PSEJ440L

>>13 Seikai. "all 4 relationships" ended up in a girl going for someone else, and that = BAWWW I'LL NEVER FIND ANYONE, while also somehow being compatible with being a "ladies man"?

Just in case the PG King line was inadvertent and OP is just a clumsy guy who has a one-track pattern: OP, learn to talk to the women about deeper issues, and not just whatever you've been doing tot his point. Asking if they want a long-term relationship is probably a good start. Then see how well you match up with ehr when hanging out in general.

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15 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-03-22 04:24 ID:h6ZunIh/

This sounds exactly like my senior at my last job. Dude, just buy more cars :P

16 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-04-04 04:09 ID:CNovCxvZ


>>I try to find myself a sweet, nice, down-to-earth girl, and they all seem to flake out on me...
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17 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-04-04 04:10 ID:CNovCxvZ


>>I try to find myself a sweet, nice, down-to-earth girl, and they all seem to flake out on me...
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18 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-04-04 11:09 ID:m+zpbGfN


I agree, nice girls wouldn't want guys who sleeps around all the time...

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19 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-04-04 18:45 ID:2+aAxdEh

OP here, amazed that this topic got bumped up!

Yeah, I've done a lot of thinking and studying since I last posted, and I realized I am going to take a break from sex and dating for a while (like I said). I'm going to quit being a dumbass, get to the root of the problem and quit being a manwhore. No more fucking on the first date, no more banging my female platonic friends just after they get out of a relationship (i.e. stop being an idiot and getting sucked into being the rebound boy), no more drunken romps at parties... Keep myself in control of my desires instead of being a slave to them.

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20 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-04-04 19:00 ID:Heaven


Hey, good luck OP. You sound like a pretty cool guy.

21 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-04-05 02:23 ID:UtdwMBu/

gl, hope you can do it.