Hey 4-ch. I'm usually just a lurker here, and this is my first serious post in Romance. I need dating advice. So here goes...
I'm used to the generic club-going, whore-ish type of girl. I'm sure you know what I mean. Most of the girls I've been with have been like this and so I know how to deal with them. But here's the thing...
Spend time inside, invite her to your home (or hers) and game or something/watch anime together/rent a movie together (or if not possible go to the movies).
Does she object to alcohol on moral grounds?
If not, maybe you could introduce her to it later on.
Start off with some fruity girl drinks, or rice wine considering your description of her.
I would do that at a later stage, but inviting her to my house might give her the wrong idea. Cinema is a good idea though. Any Japanese movies out right now?
lmao, you're fucked.
Find a j-rock/anime group concert to go to.
Part of being in a relationship is introducing the person to parts of your life. Of course, you need to be smart about it. Avoid the clubs and bars for now and take her places that wouldn't be intimidating for her.
If she's into anime and gaming and not you, let her introduce you to her world,... Of course if you learn she likes something (like japanese restaurants) you'll score well by providing it to her.
In the meantime the best would be to simply spend time together in a nice part of your town, or a park, and end up in a nice café or bar.
You also have to consider just because she watches anime and plays video games she may still not be a total wap, and doesn't eat only ramen and sushi while wearing her Naruto headband. I think it would be better if you just left her around. You apparently only had any interest in her because you thought she was cute, which is an extremely shallow reason. If you have to rack your brain to think of even one thing to do together, then that's a relationship destined to fail. If you really wish to pursue the relationship, you should find out more about her. You can't really proceed if you've just got one vague blanket statement about her hobbies to go on. Go to lunch with her or something, an interest neutral situation where you could talk with her more.
>>You apparently only had any interest in her because you thought she was cute, which is an extremely shallow reason.
He knows that their personalities clearly conflict from the start since he can't even think of one thing they might possibly do together and only wants to fight an uphill battle into being with a girl he can't relate to because of sexual attraction to her.
I can relate to her but I just don't know enough about her yet. I want to though.
As much as it might not fit your Hollywood ideas of romance, this is how most relationships start.
true true. Well, good luck!
>>As much as it might not fit your Hollywood ideas of romance, this is how most relationships start.
Invite her out to get pizza or something. Talk to her... if it seems like you could have a relationship, ask her out on another date. Ask her about her hobbies, and talk about yours. You don't need to be 100% the same to be happy together.
Yeah, pizza should work too.
There are generally two thinks waps/geeks like: wap/geek stuff and generally cool stuff.
I've found that not having a lot in common gives both parties something to talk about (assuming they're willing to take turns).
I can agree with >>18 to some extent. Sometimes I talk with someone and it turns out they like all the same things. This is awesome for a short period of time and then you get into this conversation pattern where every response is "oh, I know" or similar. There have to be at least a few differences.
You're shallow too, you're like a kiddie pool.
Being a somewhat shy geeky girl myself, I call bullshit. If a boy who happened to go clubbing and drink asked me out on a date, I'd (probably) say yes. I wouldn't necessarily agree to more dates if it turned out I didn't like him, but I'd still say yes.
What if they happen to go to clubs but take psychedelic drugs? Same deal?
It depends on how much they took, how often. If they took something maybe once every few months, fine. Just keep me out of it. If it's an addiction, fuck no.
I don't know if that's something that comes up on the first date, though... I also have seen no signs that OP takes psychedelics.
Assuming that OP does drugs is really jumping to conclusions/giving in to prejudice.
On-topic: If you know nothing about the things she's interested in, I'd suggest you either gather some clues about them yourself or let her introduce you to them.
in my oppinion you do everything, unless she's the type of girl who loves the whole dork thing, then she wants a little adventure. don't sell yourself short because you think she's a little dorky. don't go all out, but don't hold back either, walk the fine line between the two.
God, OP, just fucking ask the girl to come to your place (or you go to hers) to watch some DVDs already. Ask what kind of movies she watches, or have her suggest an anime or something, and then watch & talk afterward. She's given you a huge advantage by bringing up her interest in anime, since it means that she's less likely to expect or enjoy "going out".
This topic was posted on the 15th, if OP hasn't asked her out yet it's too late anyways.