(alternatively, civil partnership and nothing)
I've been trying to wrap my mind around this for like forever but I just can't figure it out. What is it that people are looking for in dating/going out/whatever when they don't intend for the relationship to end in either of the above? The entire concept seems like a total waste of time, money, and resources, and I just don't get it at all.
Alternatively, no. Try viewing society from without the laws of society.
I know right now in my relationship, I'll admit, I think that marriage will probably happen one day, but aside from your obvious point about sex, I like to think of it as having the ultimate best friend, one that will always be there for you, to laugh, cry, spend time with, and typically enjoys what you enjoy!
> Is the answer "Sex."?
Isn't that the exact same answer as 'marriage and babies'?
Well the thing is most girls expect every relationship to end in marriage and babies etc
It's all practice for when you do find the girl who you'll marry and have babies with
It's fun. And the practice thing too.
I wasn't aware that sex came with a 100% chance for marriage and babies. And when I say marriage and babies in this case, I mean both of them, not just the latter.
A relationship doesn't necessarily have to be a commitment to bringing a new generation to life. It can just as well be about having someone to share life with, through both good and bad times.
If you decide, somewhere along the road, to have babies, that's great...if you want it. If you decide to get married, that's a great expression of how much you love each other.
happiness in the present moment.
What's the point of a relationship that does end in marriage and babies?
I don't care about babies, marriage or sex.
I just want to hold a girl in my arms. ;_;
>>16 You need someone who loves you, not someone who loves your sperm generation ability.
Honestly, people are insecure as all hell and need that special "someone" to not tell them they're an utter fuck up even if they do utterly fuck up. And then some just do it because having a significant other means undivided attention (perfect for those who lack any real sense of confidence or security). And even others just because it's physically pleasing to be in close contact and do this and that and hubba hubba behind closed doors. And then there are people who honestly just want someone to care for them, and in return there are people who want to care about someone else. Everyone's different in that respect for motivation.
Me and my gf are very much in love with each other, but unless it's better in legal terms for us to get married in the society we live in, we don't see the need to get married, cause there's no need to prove the obvious. One reason is also that we are not religious.
As for kids.. maybe if we will have jobs that pay enough and of course more importantly time to bring kids into this cruel world. But money is not important for us, life experience and wisdom is, so who knows what the future brings. Atm more interested in travelling and experiencing the world than settling down in one place.
Training for when the day comes.
I've been trying to wrap my mind around this for like forever but I just can't figure it out. What is it that people are looking for in life when they don't intend to live forever? The entire concept seems like a total waste of time, money, and resources, and I just don't get it at all.
Personally, I think that there is no use for marriage. The only reason it was created was to make sure the woman was secure in the later part of her life.
Women and men are basically equal now. Both work and both can sustain themselves. There's no need to sign a contract allowing a woman to take 1/2 your shit. She should go and earn it herself.
>Women and men are basically equal now
Hahahahaha, no way. Women still get treated much worse in the workplace, given lower wages than their male equivalent and are often bumped out of certain positions if their bosses think they might want to get pregnant in the future.