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would you stay in this r/s? (10)


1 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-03-22 06:51 ID:BfBGKyCR

would you stay in a relationship with someone who doesn't like you as much anymore?

this person wouldn't mind breaking off but she doesn't mind staying together either. basically she's got no opinions about whether to continue or to end it.

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2 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-03-22 12:31 ID:HjKtUPzZ

Nah, I've been there, and it's not worth it, IMHO...

If she's got "no opinions" either way, then it means she's not into you, so what's the point if both people don't want each other? That's exactly what I said to an Ex of mine, before we finally broke up for good... She was making statements like "Well, it's up to you", and "I'm not concerned either way", etc... Again, what's the point if the relationship's not a partnership, and both people aren't even wanting each other?!

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3 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-03-22 15:49 ID:txhvUFg1

Yeah, not worth it. I've been the girl in a situation like that, and she's just going to break up with you eventually anyway.

4 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-03-22 16:25 ID:6I35AOKZ

as soon as her interest level lowers beyond a certain point, you're fucked. She's just using your attention until some other guy comes along. Scrape up whatever dignity you have left and tell her you're breaking up, because you can't stand her lack of commitment or her indifference towards you.

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5 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-03-22 22:29 ID:EDW0BBCT

break up. Maybe you can still be friends. shrug

6 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-03-23 05:35 ID:xoyNPSPf

OP here.

yeah that's what i thought. i just can't bring myself to pull the trigger.

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7 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-03-23 08:08 ID:trZDafNi

if you are worried about making a decision you will regret then instead of breaking it off right away maybe try this-

give yourself a timeline. say in 4 months if things don't improve, call it quits. That way you can still try whatever it is you need to try but not end up being one of those people stuck in a dead relationship. the key is that you HAVE to break it off after the time limit is met. It's what keeps you from screwing yourself over. This way you can get out of the relationship knowing you did what you could and not have regrets while protecting yourself.

8 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-03-23 14:50 ID:+kMD4bQL

>>7

hmm...just to clarify how this works.

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9 Name: Kurono : 2008-03-25 14:34 ID:5aY/GiKW

>>8
That's what it sounds like. It's not that all bad an idea, but she doesn't sound very interested in you. But hey maybe it'll change. Just make sure that you'll be commited to the timeline and if no improvement, then break it off. Always hard to pull the trigger so to speak.

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10 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-03-27 16:24 ID:+kMD4bQL

>>9

you mean where she's going to?

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