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1 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-03-22 22:00 ID:adzqOSIm

There is quite a long story behind this, but I'll leave it. My friends sitser has a crush on me, and has had for ages. Quite long anyway, I'm not sure exactly how long.

She just spent the last 1/2 hour talking to me about her feelings.

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2 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-03-22 22:03 ID:5dbzUgDK

Question: are u a huge faggot?

3 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-03-22 22:10 ID:adzqOSIm

Answer: no.

Well maybe.

4 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-03-22 22:37 ID:5dbzUgDK

>>3
We'll go with your first instinct, so basically you already know what to do, right?

5 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-03-22 22:37 ID:Heaven

No, you most likely should not hit that.

6 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-03-22 23:15 ID:3DzkIgHR

Do not do it. Firstly, shes only 13. Second, she's your friends' 13 year old sister.

7 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-03-22 23:16 ID:nXh+u8Y6

with full force

8 Name: Chou : 2008-03-23 01:34 ID:pcetjLFQ

Nooooo

Teenage emotions are fragile, especially tween emotions. She may think its true wuv when it really isn't, as most people her age do.

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9 Name: Zimie : 2008-03-23 02:50 ID:UL/9cOGQ

Tell her it can't be, theres a 5 years difference, and it can get you in trouble if you do (Sassatory* Rape D: sp) Tell her that they're guys her age that will go out with her.

10 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-03-23 03:37 ID:zwobrI16

She only likes you because you're one of those "older guys" that middle school girls love to ogle over. There's also the "forbidden" element because you're her brother's friend.

She's basically lusting after you. Anything you do with her, both of you are going to think, "Wow, that was really dumb of me" a few months down the road.

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11 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-03-23 04:28 ID:fcwF1yt7

Waywayway too young.
She'll change her feelings for you and you'll break up, but you'll still get crap for being a pedo.
Definitely don't do it.

12 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-03-23 05:21 ID:Heaven

Don't go right in. Probe around a bit, figure out your feelings while staying in the safe zone. There's a chance that she's not just being a teenager. Don't let any preconceptions about age stop you from what might be a good relationship, but don't get too involved before you know who you're getting involved with.

13 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-03-23 13:51 ID:Heaven

No, don't do it.
If she still feels the same in four to six years (which she wont), then you can make your move.

14 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-03-23 20:46 ID:Heaven

>>13

He's only 5 years older. It's not like he's a 65 year old man cruising the junior highs.

15 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-03-23 21:19 ID:Heaven

>>14

Five years makes for a hell of a difference in maturity at that age. The possible consequences for both people outweigh any temporary joy they could get out of a relationship, sexual or not.

16 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-03-24 11:30 ID:Heaven

If it were me I wouldn't do anything, but I would tell her outright that if she can wait until it's legal then okay. But I think that's because of a weird fantasy that if a girl can't have you now, they will spend the intervening time making themselves better for you. Guess I can only blame manga for that.

17 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-03-24 12:34 ID:adzqOSIm

>>16
A lot of my ideas on relationships are based on manga. Its probably not the best source.

18 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-03-26 07:22 ID:sznD2+dA

Don't touch that shit.

Put her down, but gently. Hug her or something? Tell her you don't share feelings and that's it.

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19 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-03-26 17:57 ID:adzqOSIm

Last night she started texting me. I've known her for about 5 years but. I've never even spoken to her properly, I talked to her once when she saw me at work, that was it. We talk on MSN all the time. She is quite fun to talk to. I wouldn't have guessed she was 13.

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20 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-03-26 18:29 ID:5dbzUgDK

>>19
Cute little girl. Watch out for her. My best friends little sister had a crush on me too. She's adorable, like a younger sister to me in many ways. I'm 5 years older than her. She wanted us to be together, she was 14 at the time. I wasn't entirely opposed to the idea, but it was just too awkward.

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21 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-03-27 12:31 ID:Kgv9vWL6

ITT: Pedophiles

22 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-03-27 19:07 ID:Heaven

>>21

ITT: A person who doesn't know the difference between pedophilia and ephebophilia

23 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-03-27 23:33 ID:adzqOSIm

I kinda told her, that she's too young, as well as being my friends sister just makes it weirder.

Its strange. I've never had a girlfriend, and now one is literally begging for me to see her, and I say no. She still says Hi on msn when I login, and there's always a text on my phone when I check it before I go to bed.

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24 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-03-28 00:43 ID:Heaven

>>22
It doesn't really matter since neither has anything to do with this thread.

25 Name: June : 2008-03-29 15:59 ID:HcJIJvMy

Umm its definitely a no. statutory rape isnt very attractive to have on your record. dont forget jail time....she may look like a woman and talk like one but she is a girl. a middle schooler with parents. personally, i would never have gone up to my brothers friends at that age and confessed. it would us both in an awkward position.
she's trouble...dont go near it. be civil with her because girls at that age tend to be a bit fanciful. dont give her ideas....she could start telling stories to friends and they spread

26 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-03-29 18:26 ID:Heaven

>>23

Then you'll never have a girlfriend, and you don't deserve one.

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27 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-03-29 21:18 ID:Heaven

>>23

You did the right thing.

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28 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-03-29 22:39 ID:adzqOSIm

>>26
Maybe i won't. I am a loser. and A coward.

>>27

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