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your first breakup (20)


1 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-03-29 14:38 ID:L6X7JzYn

how long did you take to get over your first (serious) love?

and how long was the relationship?

2 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-03-29 14:47 ID:DxSvZGj9

Took me about an hour.
It lasted for 3 days

3 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-03-29 17:26 ID:yvRN3TA6

>>2

i said serious love.

4 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-03-29 18:09 ID:9WApplyA

My relationship lasted about a year, and ended five years ago. I'm still not over it. In fact, I carry a letter she wrote me in my wallet and read it when I'm alone, and I cry.

5 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-03-29 18:21 ID:bTW2X598

>>4

Dude. I want to hug you. That's really sweet. I'm sorry for your loss.

6 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-03-29 18:25 ID:Heaven

My relationship lasted about 8 years, and just ended yesterday. Shortly planning on killing myself.

7 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-03-29 18:31 ID:L6X7JzYn

>>4

crap. i hope i'm not like you man. my 1 yr r/s will probably end in the next 3 days.

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8 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-03-29 18:59 ID:DxSvZGj9

>>3
What are you judging my shit? Who are you to say it wasn't serious love?

9 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-03-29 21:40 ID:ePYCDSfn

First and only relationship, for 6 months before my 21st birthday. That's just under a year ago. I wasn't over her for probably a good 6 months - basically I went through a phase of wanting her to be unhappy and me to be happily with someone else (I broke up with her because she slept with her ex-bf) but now I'm just like "meh.." don't really care.

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10 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-03-30 10:58 ID:lH7pLwEg

I've been in a very intense relationship for about 2 years, we ended half a month ago due to circumstances: he's going to leave country for good, and I'm way too young to even be able to leave my parent's home. This was my first love and I've had the happiest moments one could ever ask for in a relationship, I believe.

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11 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-03-30 17:00 ID:DyHWSawJ

>>10

wow...that's real sad. do you still love him? how about a long distance relationship? maybe till you can go over to be with him?

12 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-03-30 17:02 ID:o7YH1cCn

>>8

and who are you kidding?

13 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-03-30 20:03 ID:lH7pLwEg

>>11

Nah, I can't afford to love him anymore, things just wouldn't work out now would they?

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14 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-03-30 22:02 ID:czPjzm7u

The relationship lasted around 6-7 months. Took me a couple of days to "get over it" at the time, but every once in a while I think of it and wince.

15 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-04-08 00:37 ID:aTbA1K1z

my only relationship lasted almost the 4 year mark. she broke up with me in 2003. Wow its been 5 years, lol. Anyway, it took me around 3 months I think to really get over her. Now its more of a "what the hell was I thinking lasting 4 years with her" lol.

16 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-04-08 02:41 ID:l/7A5qsb

we got to 8 months and 15 days... she broke up with me on my birthday 1 week ago. i'm still in the crying stage. idk why i'm still crying, she slept with her abusive ex-bf. she can go suck a fuck... but i still love her......

17 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-04-08 10:11 ID:ePYCDSfn

>>16

>>9 here, pretty similar circumstances to me. She slept with her ex a week before my birthday. Told me the day after my birthday. I'm guessing that in some ways you still wish you were with her, but then also know that what she did was unforgiveable. I've now gotten to the point where I don't care about her and what she does. I don't particularly want to meet up with her ever again, but if I do see her I will say hi and do the usual polite things but I don't think my heart will be in it. I won't bother trying to organise meeting up with her, even though a few months before christmas she did suggest meeting at some point and I said yes without either of us setting a concrete time. I don't want to see her current boyfriend though, that just makes me mad.

18 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-04-09 04:31 ID:je8+Q5h1

The relationship happened twice. Once when I was 15... he was dating someone else, and I broke it off because I knew it was tearing our friendship apart.

It took a good six months for us to be comfortable as friends again. I still loved him, but I was fine just being super close friends.

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19 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-04-09 04:38 ID:bQn2R3kX

i was 19, and we broke up after a month or so because i realized that we just didn't click. i didn't go in the relationship liking him that much, but i thought i would slowly like him more and more. it never happened.

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20 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-04-10 03:35 ID:GpQMWtbC

I was 21 if I remember it right. Lasted for about 5 months, I got over her instantly. We're still friends and I still think about her from time to time but even if I still find her attractive (on all counts, not just physically), i'm not romantically attracted to her anymore.