I have just recently found this site, and feel like it is the right place to chat about this. Because of the fact that I want people to know what I am before they know who I am. So I do hope all of you will accept that. ｢(ﾟﾍﾟ)
You= Me four years ago
Now= No hope, no dreams, all that fighting made me empty...some are meant to be alone..
Future, I have hope because I do dream.
Mostly because life is a dream that you are living. And also, I have learned lately that you cannot find what you want if you constantly fight. Be it with yourself or others. I learned that I wasted most of my life because I was fighting a pointless battle. ＿|￣|○
trying to find the "one special girl" is dangerous. you will inevitably become extremely attached to one girl, and you're royally screwed if that one girl doesn't like you. i have experience with this, trust me. your best bet is to keep yourself open to every type of girl (as long as you find her acceptably attractive).
honestly dude i like it how you are thinking that you will find that one person, but speaking from advice, you are just going to settle with a girl, who is great, but she was one of many loves in your life. expecting to find that "one" by chance and on the first try is possible, but improbable. so you just need to get out there, take a few hits to the soul but understand in the end you will come out on top.
I've been in your situation before, I liked this girl for 2 years and i really thought she was the one i've been looking for and i fight alot of battles just to get near her, but the results end up not as i expected and to be honest i really think i wasted 2 years here waiting when i couldve gone and find others out there who are prob alot better then her. you have to watch out not to be so obsesed with just one girl cos it scares them away. focusing on one particular girl sometimes bring down your confidence and you dont want that to happen, but hey you never know, your "special girl" might work out for you! keep dreaming! we're all dreamers! =]
Thanks folks for the words of advice and other things. I will always feel that there is just one person for everybody. Which is why I will always be looking for "the one".
And yeah, I worry that I might sound like a stalker to her. That is one thing I always worry about. Especially since you can never be sure with guys these days. ＿|￣|○
Sometimes you'll only love one person with a passion that cannot be matched.
That's rare and short lived.
The things with those...from personal experience......I dont think when you are looking for one, you would get one..... instead just let it be. Although it might take ages, take your time to reflect your life so far..
I am still young but been through a lot of relationships that completely screw me up over trusting.
Well, keep up hope, but don't obsess about it. That's it, really.
while stories like the one of densha, I's, or video girl Ai have made me believe in "true love", i never wished for a personal version of those stories for myself.
i guess i can tell you my story of the girl who mattered the most to me thus far.
This was actually very insightful.
In fiction, stuff happens to the hero and then he changes. In real life... you have to make it happen. It's an active situation, not a passive one...
I Have both read Densha Otoko and watched Ahh!! My Godess and most likely it wont happen like that although it would be totaly awsome if it did!!! But from my experiences all I can say to help ya out is to not ever give up and keep looking forward and if you believe that that woman is out there waiting for you then you absolutely cant give up looking for her!!!! Soo just keep confident and dont give up the search for that "one" _|-|o
Oto Otoko, I think you are obsessed with finding a girlfriend. Do you have any other goals in life? Doing something that you enjoy and are good at? I say stay busy and live your life, because you'll probably meet someone when you least expect it.
( Continuing the odd trend of using a name in this thread. )
I really think it's beautiful that you are devoted to finding "The One". As others have said, it is dangerous business, but don't give up hope. I'm sure you'll find her eventually!
A friend of mine mentioned the other day that instead of waiting to find the perfect car, it's better to try the ones which are on the market to see what sort you like.
I replied that funnily enough, the reason I hadn't yet bought a car was that I hadn't found the perfect one yet, and thus the advice was for me more literal than his comment was originally supposed to be.
>>17 Comparing love to a car will get you shot/mauled by the nearest woman.
I would rather stick my dick in a car's exhaust pipe than have to deal with a woman.
We were near women at the time, and he got away without even a contrary comment from one.
>>20 My, that certainly must mean that his logic is solid!
When buying a new car, you can settle for something less than perfect because you replace a car every few years. If you were told that you would have to spend the rest of your live driving the same car, you would certainly try to find the perfect car, and wouldn't settle.
Finding "THE ONE" and knowing it from the start does not happen. This is an extremely flawed approach. Especially since everybody has flaws.
Fact is, that people are flawed. Do you think that you're capable of being The One, someone's dream man?
Finding "The One" is a nice idea, and a romantic ideal. How realistic is it? I'm not sure, even though I still cling onto it.
But as some people have touched on in this thread, sometimes its not "love at first sight" it's "love over a period of time" and both can mean The One.
I used to stress over finding "The One."
Then I got punched in the gut with the fist called "adult life." Now I honestly could not care less -- when I get back from a long day and collapse in front of the computer, the absolute last thing on my mind is going out to socialize. Even if I was so inclined, I have no time left in my day to devote to dating things.
I know how u feel ota otoko coz I feel the same
I like to find the special one for me .
like in(Ah! My Goddess), 4 me until know I didnt find it ＿|￣|○
I really wish that the real life become like anime, every one can find his special one and stay together always.