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20 and still single (23)

1 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-03-31 07:07 ID:yzoI/TRp

i'm 20 this year, and i have only dated once, and it was really informal too. i wasn't that into him, and we ended things quite quickly.

that was when i was 18, and since then, i haven't dated. i'm in college, the time when most people date, and date a lot too. so i'm just wondering what the hell is my problem.

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2 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-03-31 07:34 ID:Cu7/l+g7

I'm 26, I've only dated once, for 3 days. It was kind of not serious, lol.

I'm definately not unattractive, personally I think I'm handsome, and I've had plenty of girls chasing after me over the years. I just don't indulge them, nor do I particularly hunt for girls myself.

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3 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-03-31 08:11 ID:WlyuVvQy

>>1 and >>2 should hook up.

4 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-03-31 11:30 ID:n6JMz0HW

I'd date you, >>1. Most guys on this site probably would.

5 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-03-31 18:03 ID:A0nxDKgO

>>2 you are me. except I am 6 years younger than you. I guess things never change.

6 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-03-31 19:30 ID:Cu7/l+g7

Nah they do, people like you and me are just a bit behind. In the end I don't think that will be a bad thing.

7 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-03-31 21:19 ID:QT3YWfEc

Same here. >>2 describes me pretty accurately, except I'm six years younger and don't think I've had that many girls chasing after me over the years. (Only a few.)

8 Name: 7 : 2008-03-31 21:21 ID:QT3YWfEc

Oh, and I actually never dated anyone. EVAR. So you guys are still ahead of me.

9 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-03-31 21:25 ID:nPe/UyKZ

I haven't dated anyone, but I'm four years younger. I don't have female friends either.

10 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-04-01 01:09 ID:7t206be4

24. Never dated. Never done anything with a women, not even kissed.

11 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-04-01 02:20 ID:/tE/DgeC


Boo fucking hoo. Pull up a chair and join 4-ch's Lonely Hearts Club. First of all, college is NOT a time for dating. Compared to our parent's time, college is full of hook-ups, one night stands, friends with benefits, and all kinds of sex-without-dating activities. I'm in college, right on the frontlines, and I can tell you it happens very often.

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12 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-04-01 03:34 ID:u80rGjEU

And don't go bar marauding. I really don't think it good advice. NOW, I have never been in a bar, and I am under the legal drinking age, but having sound advice and watching shit tons of TV and people; I know my shit enough to know that bars are pretty iffy.

13 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-04-01 13:06 ID:01FS3UdP

Well excuse me but you're wrong. I met lots of good friends in bars. And those friends have friends, who have friends, etc. It's a good way to build a social circle.

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14 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-04-01 19:12 ID:7t206be4

I hate walking into bars, especially if they are iron bars.

15 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-04-01 21:25 ID:RMqlPycH


Tear down these bars for me
Stop me from going under

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16 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-04-03 00:45 ID:h3uBxOlZ

19. Never been on a date. No female friends. I think it's because I create wierd psychological barriers for myself or something. I'm just bad at starting up with meeting people. Sadly none of my friends really have anyone to set me up with either. Not to mention the party scene is not at all for me.

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17 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-04-03 03:09 ID:9/tS9EoH

>>2 describes me pretty accurately, except I'm NINE years younger and don't think I've had that many girls chasing after me over the years. (Only a few.)


18 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-04-03 03:35 ID:h3uBxOlZ


Same. Except for the girls chasing me part. Or at least not as far as I'm aware of. I have been told by a few female accquantinces that I am very attractive. I should mention that I'm almost 6 years younger than >>2 as well.

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19 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-04-03 16:36 ID:KbYITuLe

Perhaps why she said your intimidating was because she was scared to confess to you? Pretty women (and some men) are typically single, surprisingly, because they people are intimidated from asking them out, thinking that they're not worthy.

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20 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-04-03 16:50 ID:01FS3UdP

I realized some time ago that if you show yourself as someone really intelligent, deep and stuff like that, people will find you intimidating, even if they like you. There are traits that are indeed qualities that must be kept hidden because they tend to scare people away.

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21 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-04-03 18:23 ID:h3uBxOlZ


Thanks. I am fairly involved, probably could be more so, but I get by. I guess in college it's a little wierd in a way because there's very few people that you can really hold a long infatuation with as in HS. So it does become somewhat of a different game.

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22 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-04-04 03:24 ID:oX7nBw+p


Exactly... I consider myself the same way but it tends to scare people away and you and end up scaring yourself as well. I'm 26 (guy) and dated last year for the first time in my life. I am not a cover-face but not unattractive either. Still I lost all these years for nothing. Back in HS there was this girl that made the hell out of my life, putting me down and making me hate myself because she thought I was "hideous". That went on for straight 3 years. All that time, I couldn't get that she actually had a crush on me (furiously scaring girls away from me whenever they approached me). She was practically my shadow. That left a scar on me. I lost confidence... Had few girls over the years that cared for me and have shown infatuation, but stupid me... I never responded in the right way. I let this bad memory torture me thinking that what she said was true (the hideous part). Yet, last summer this girl approached me and we started dating. Had a first kiss (yeah first kiss @ 25 -- pathetic) which actually went on for 20 minutes :) She said she actually found me very attractive and interesting and helped me realize how much I lost by letting one mentally unstable and insecure girl draw an image of me FOR ME. I admit I am still insecure and that mainly comes from the fact that I am fat. But instead of whining I am actually doing something... Lost 30 lbs in 2 months. 80 lbs more to go, but I'll make it until New Year.

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23 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-04-05 16:05 ID:RMqlPycH


>>And guys if you wait for girls to make the first move you better sit down and relax... cause you're in for a long wait... and when and if they come, you'll likely ignore them making up excuses.
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