I need help.
I don't know how socialize.
You and me both, hun.
Welcome to teenagehood, kids.
hey.. how old are you??
Everyone does not love the popular girls. I personally can't stand those fucking bitches.
The popular girls are much lonelier than you. Or, they will be, once they realize that nobody was really their friend for any important reason.
The reason why you feel lonely may be that you didn't actually find a guy you are attracted to. That does not mean nobody is looking at you. Try to look suddenly behind you at the parties and you'll see guys checking you out.
Personally I don't like those popular girls you speak of. I usually sit looking at the girls who are like you, thinking how cute they are and how much I'd like to get to know them, but I'm not the social type.
Perhaps I'm a bit afraid also, I've been bullied too. I assure you there are guys who already like you, and would love to get to know you. But you're so closed up, they are afraid to approach you. And they are the same and you're afraid of them. Works so well for everyone, this fear of hurt and rejection.
50 kilos isn't much... at all... if you're not very short, you're probably underweight.
Most importantly, it's like several others have already said. Everybody doesn't love the 'popular' girls. There is a large and noticable group which generaly does 'love' the 'popular' girls, this generally consists of superficial, idiotic types.
>10 said it best.
You said you're afraid of letting people know the real you. That you're afraid people would use your flaws against you. The thing is, people who would do that, do that to anyone and everyone. You can't live your life in fear of those people. You have to live life on your own terms, as the real you. And in order to do that, you have to accept yourself, and accept that other people will accept you. Because they really will. But if nobody can see who the real you is, how can they ever come to like you for who you are?
I feel like I'm at the same level as >1 so reading everyone's responses has shed light on what I need to work on as well...Thanks everyone...
Yikes, I didn't think it was real because it was too idealic. We're all dark lonely people, we all lead depressing lives and we're afraid of everyone. Aren't we?
The goal of life is to try and ignore the fact that it sucks. If you can achieve that by laughing and generally having a good time, it works to your advantage. People who are cursed with seeing things as they really are are usually the ones who end up lonely in the end.
>>16 The fact is that it doesn't.
It's a matter of perspective. If you think it sucks, then it sucks, if you think its great, then it is. Subjectivity.
Sartre would agree with you. So do I. It is called the absurd victory.
hm...my philosphy is.."there is no ugly person in this world,but yet no person in the world is perfect".think hard bout it.
sorry, there are lots of ugly people in the world. It's fact.
Not really. I lead a dark life, which could be considered depressing and lonely, but I am far from feeling either.
yo Fail-Chan...don't put urself down. U r who u r. I think da reason y u feel dat y is b'cuz u categorize urself away from other cliques. Therefore, u b'come envious and depressed. However, if u still want ppl 2 b open 2 u...THEN OPEN UP TO THEM!!! i kno it hurts 2 say "I'm so afraid of letting people know the 'real' me... I'm scared they'll end up using my weaknesses against me. I've been bullied a lot before. I'm scared of being hurt again." I've went through it b4 too...b'cuz I LET THEM hurt me. However, dat was in middle school. Even though I got bullied again in high school, I at least put my foot down and told them 2 fuck off. Apparently, some ppl admired dat...and now I have good friends.
Are you the girl in my chem lab?!
Can't you write correctly? Goddamit, you're a pain to read.
Fail-chan, I think you just need to build a bit of confidence.
Are you in high school? College? Either place is a good place to start. Perhaps a more casual relationship or dating experience to start with might be better.
hey, i just noticed something-
people like us give really great advice...I have been up and down this whole bbs, and there are some really great thinkers in here.
props to all of you. with that aside...
well um popular chicks hmmm i don't know all girls seem to have a social circle that they join by just chattering away.... it seemed a lot simpler on the girls side, i mean guys' side isnt that much different as well
i say join some organizations or clubs or anything that involves a membership of some sort
ok i know im new to this online community thing, but since when is giving out an email address an act of "soliciting yourself"
I'll give you a tip if you're new: don't overreact and cool down. Don't let violence boil up.
Relax, there's nothing personal.
>>32 i get dates every weekend so chill.
Shit was so cash.
Hope you're having some sort of success out there, Fail-chan!
Yeah, I wanna hear more about Fail-chan!
also, >>35, I lolled. (｀･ω･´)
Since I'm new to this thread...i'm just going to give this girl a new name: Kawaii-chan!
I'm sure you are attractive and that attractiveness is going to attract guys and because of that. You will be attracting the trash and the jewels as well. I suggest date multiple guys and learn things about them and let a little bit of stuff out about yourself gradually.
>>22. >>sorry, there are lots of ugly people in the world. It's fact.
looking from biological point of view. darwin's theory on the survival of the fittest. if nobody wants to be with ugly people, why do human still produce ugly people then. according to the theory, we should all by now be beautiful because ugly people would be exticnt already. so what went wrong???
sweetness comes from the heart...not the image. You show that to the guy...you will have a good shot at winning his.
Honestly, I find that most of the stereotypical "popular girls" are shallow assholes who put on a show to be liked.
Where I'm from, almost all of them are clones of each other.
Jesus girl. 50 kilos?
I weighed that much when I was 10, and I'm by no means fat. Have you considered that you might be underweight, and that that might be detracting from your attractiveness?
"Romantic Love for boys: Bestfriend turns Girlfriend."
Exactly!! Me too. (Because I'm a girl, I can't really comment on their attractiveness, but they all seem the same skimpy outfit and hip hugging jeans set to me.) 50% of them have about two words in their vocabulary (OMG and like). 50% are A+ overachievers (but I have a feeling half of that GPA can be credited to cheating/copying/sharing answers)
Where is Kawaii-chan?
Popular for not here is a fact that you should look for: Life only comes once so have fun.
Just don't care about those petty things and just look for you are own life and if you want some friends or happiness then you need to commit on yourself.
You do sound as though you are lonely, but please do not become someone you are not in order to have friends. Your ultimate goal should be to become a happier and more whole version of yourself and this will attract people to you. By that I mean you shouldn't try to become a popular girl for the sake of making friends, because those friendships will be empty.
I think this thread was more of a venting thread, yet a hundred people came giving this and that advice. Maybe thats why she doesnt reply.
dicks out for Harambe