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Rough times with boyfriend [crapload of text] (13)


1 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-04-11 03:37 ID:rXxk3QyT

Things got a little rough with my boyfriend yesterday and today. And the more I think about it, the more I worry.
When I'm with him I'm so happy, but then there are some things he does that just make me really upset. Maybe I am asking for too much. Whenever we argue, he doesn't understand why I'm upset and always wants me to tell him. But I want him to be able to figure out on his own sometimes. A relationship doesn't have to be all verbal, right? He should be able to tell what's wrong sometimes.

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2 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-04-11 08:53 ID:ICVptpTP

Being a guy I know firsthand that sometimes what guys need is for girls to spell out their feelings in detail for us to understand. I'm blessed (cursed?) with a slightly better/more feminine sense of empathy than most of my kind, but it is still important to understand that communication is the most important key to maintaining a relationship.

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3 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-04-11 08:56 ID:u5jEw+ex

>Whenever we argue, he doesn't understand why I'm upset and always wants me to tell him. But I want him to be able to figure out on his own sometimes.

That's what most females expect from males and that's what most males hate about females.

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4 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-04-11 21:33 ID:cTxy7rE7

>Whenever we argue, he doesn't understand why I'm upset and always wants me to tell him. But I want him to be able to figure out on his own sometimes. A relationship doesn't have to be all verbal, right? He should be able to tell what's wrong sometimes.
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5 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-04-11 21:43 ID:Heaven

+1. Women come up with the most irrational shit to bitch about sometimes, and guys simply can't bring their logical brains to figure out what the hell they're being blamed for.

6 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-04-11 21:48 ID:xHGXsftS

I think you are WORTHLESS and need to DIE.

BITCH!

7 Name: Herbie : 2008-04-11 21:53 ID:h7zDePe6

Disregard that last reply (he sucks cocks).

Re: communication. If you want your boyfriend to know how you feel or what you want, TELL HIM. Until humans develop widely spread telepathic abilities, people aren't generally going to know what other people are feeling without being told in some way. Seriously. It doesn't get any easier in this regard as time goes on, either. Give it ten years and you'll still be bringing shit upon yourself if you just expect your man to somehow know what's wrong.

8 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-04-11 23:54 ID:J9jqd1Ok

>>3
said it best

9 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-04-12 00:03 ID:UUW+vdG8

I agree with >>2, >>3, and >>7, the rest of you suck.

Guys have this thing missing from their brain that keeps them from "figuring out" anything, even from someone they love. I know it'll be tough just simply talking to him about it, but guys prefer it if you just say it out loud. If he thinks you're being stupid or if he gets angry at you, then I don't think he was really worth the trouble after all if he can't even understand how you feel even after you tell him.

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10 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-04-12 01:11 ID:rXxk3QyT

Thanks, >>2 >>7 >>9

I sometimes felt/knew I was being sort of demanding wishing for him to be able to like read my mind. I don't always make him guess what's wrong but when I do I know it's probably not easy for him.

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11 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-04-13 05:14 ID:sMC6a7DQ

>>10

Good luck! And remember, communicate!

12 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-04-14 22:51 ID:jp2DhqCn

>>4

Agreed wholeheartedly. Though I won't directly bash you, you really need to understand that misogyny is very very VERY often actually the fault of the woman. You need to step outside of yourself, put yourself in the shoes of someone who isn't obsessively ruminating over every single little thing you say and has his own life and own problems to figure out and just wants to make you happy but simply doesn't have the mental energy to figure out all of your little emotional puzzles.

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13 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-04-14 23:11 ID:NDfLIxMN

>>9

I don't know who you are, but I'd like to date you for six months and make you fall in love with me just so I could dump you in the most painfully public way.