Recently I've realized that my girlfriend is way smarter than she pretends to be. It then dawned on me that she only acts stupid around me... and probably just to make me feel that I am smarter than her, as most guys feel. It's not the trying-to-be-cute stupid, she just pretends she doesn't know anything and acts likea simpleton.
How exactly does she act stupid? Can you give an example?
Would you prefer if she just shows how smart she is so she shades you? I believe she's doing it for you. Just let her know your ok with her being smarter than you.
I think your inferiority in this relationship comes from the fact that you can't accept her the way she is. She did accept you the way you are and loves you so much that she does what she is doing. I am gifted myself but don't ever view girls I like through their intelligence for solving complex scientific problems :) I'd say stop tiring your brain with stupid things like this and enjoy her love, because you truly are a lucky guy. She doesn't expect you to solve mathematical mysteries for her, but she will want your babies someday :)
You're not special here. Are you new to the internet?
Maybe you're smarter than she thinks, too. She probably didn't expect you to notice she's playing dumb. I've had problems with guys myself because of my intelligence, and this girl sounds significantly smarter than me, so almost definitely she's had them too. So she's probably learnt that toning down her intelligence is important if she doesn't want to drive boyfriends away, or something. You shouldn't be angry with her, really.
Acknowledge that you know she's smarter than you, but don't exactly confront her about it.
Like, ask her to explain physics related stuff, about her favorite subjects, etc.
Maybe she likes the time she spends with you because she can relax without having to live up to constant expectations of intelligence that she gets in class etc.
lolol i've been new to internet for 10 years or so... c'mon aren't you just a tiny bit jelaous ?? lol
of course it was... although it works with women, so consider me a fag in that case...
lol why everybody wants him to dump her?? Is it me, or other guys have problems accepting chicks' intelligence. Btw, I am a guy too and I don't have a slightest problem with that.
Stop pretending to be a feminist.
This isn't about accepting her "intelligence", it's about her pretending to be an idiot, as to not make her boyfriend feel like a retard.
hhahahahha it's so funny how you analyze my posts to confirm my "faggotry". Are you completely sure you're hetero? If smileys mean that I am a fag, then yes I am. I think OP's girl would have much harder time pretending around you. I am sorry you have issues...
No, seriously I am addicted to using ":)" and lolz... Ok, I am out to smoke a fag...
Let's get back to helping >>1, shall we? We don't want this thread turning into something it's not supposed to be.
It probably bothers you a lot because she's not being completely honest with herself around you. Like >>9 says, for some reason a lot of guys just stop liking a girl just because she seems smarter than they are. She probably thinks you're doing the same thing, and the fact that it bothers you might add to her insecurity. If you're more than sure that she is truly pretending, then I think you should just confront her about it, and maybe tell her than you're okay with her just being her normal, incredibly intelligent self.
I agree with >>22.
Best possible solution. After all, you want to get to know her for who she is, right? not a dumbed-down version. It's best to be honest with her. Let her know it does bother you a bit, too, and give it some time.
If she knew you well then she wouldn't be acting like a dumb bitch.
If she's really that much smarter than him, a talk isn't going to do much but make her pretend to be a little smarter to appease him.
waaaah so she is smart. big effin deal. intelligence is attractive. so what if she is smarter than you. she is still with you. if she found you too stupid for her to keep loving you then she would have ended it long ago. dont let it bother you and enjoy the relationship.
how 'bout this: u try bein' a smartass in front of her 4 a day (try bein' smart on her on different subjects) and she how she feels. Then maybe she'll actually stop bein' stupid and actually go back 2 herself
That's a guaranteed breakup...
Just hit her.
How much of a problem is it for a girl to be smarter than her boyfriend? Does this bother many guys, and how much? Would I be better off aiming to go out with men who are smarter than me?
Er, no. It doesn't exactly bother me personally if a girl is... "smarter" (this is highly subjective), as it gives me a chance to learn with someone. And learning is always fun. It also means that she will have a rich fantasy life, which if she chooses to reveal, would be very interesting to experience. But that's me. I think most other guys do find it disturbing that because their girlfriends may be better in a subject, it makes them smarter, and consequently they fear being constantly evaluated. This is by no means false, yet it can be easily overcome and reasoned with.
It doesn't bother me either, but I must confess I've found this to be quite rare indeed - but that's probably me. I do enjoy girls that are highly qualified in domains that are unknown to me, as like >>33 said it would give me a chance to learn. This also means the person has to enjoy transmitting knowledge; I like when it works on an 'exchange' basis.
have u at least expressed this 2 her b4? does she kno this bothers u?
This isn't about being bothered that she's smarter, it's about her acting like a retard because she thinks her boyfriend is one.
Get it right.
How do you explain that to someone exactly?
"oh hey, um I don't like the fact that you're smarter than me." ??
It's clearly about her being smarter if she's confusing him with her intelligence.
Where did he say that she was confusing him?