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I like this Guy, and I think he likes me. . . orz . . . where do I go from here? (29)


1 Name: Elle : 2008-04-15 07:09 ID:s2PrZvNJ

I met this guy while visiting my friend in college. . .
Since then we've been keeping in contact constantly for 2 months. We talk about everything and I'm staring to like him a lot. Question is: How do I go through the normal process?

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2 Name: Browneyes : 2008-04-15 07:42 ID:l3+ctJcs

there is no normal process...

but if there is one thing that is a common thing among guys, we generally don't want girls to be the ones who make the first move.

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3 Name: Don : 2008-04-15 11:40 ID:UT8NXh7k

I say ask him if you feel like the situation is right. The worst that can happen is that you guys remain friends. If he can't decide to make the first move then be brave and do it yourself. I'm actually used to girls randomly coming up to me more revealing their feelings then me doing it. I think I've only done it a couple of times and they were successful because I dated them and sure things didn't workout but we're all friends. Wouldn't take them back though. The point is you like the dude so go for it before he might fall for someone else while your not around. Sometimes you gotta take a leap of faith if you feel strong about your feelings and want an answear to your question

4 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-04-15 13:30 ID:doV1fhjK

>we generally don't want girls to be the ones who make the first move.

As a guy I must say that this is only true for me if I'm not interested in the girl or if I don't find her attractive. Otherwise I would prefer a girl to make the first move because typically I can never tell if one is interested in me or not.

5 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-04-15 15:48 ID:d+tHw4je

Girl here, and I'm just going of off what's worked for me in the past...

Just relax and flirt when you're around him. Make excuses to be around him when the two of you are alone. Also give him plenty of hugs and physical contact. Do what feels natural, though, don't force things. (Be sure to insist on hugs when you're saying goodbye, though.) Pay attention to his reactions; if he's like "meh, whatever" when you hug him, you're probably out of luck. If he starts initiating physical contact too, you get to be very happy.

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6 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-04-15 19:07 ID:Mb/tW12w

>>2

>but if there is one thing that is a common thing among guys, we generally don't want girls to be the ones who make the first move.
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7 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-04-15 21:25 ID:jYdbSEc4

>>2

>but if there is one thing that is a common thing among guys, we generally don't want girls to be the ones who make the first move.
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8 Name: Elle : 2008-04-16 01:50 ID:mzMURt4T

So, I should make the first move?
A bit of a problem, I'm really shy and he's at college right now. . . We send text messages back and forth, and he always knows what to say. . I just can't say the same for myself.
I'm visiting him this weekend. . . He just doesn't know it bacause His friend invited me and my other friend is picking me up.

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9 Name: Elle : 2008-04-16 01:50 ID:mzMURt4T

So, I should make the first move?
A bit of a problem, I'm really shy and he's at college right now. . . We send text messages back and forth, and he always knows what to say. . I just can't say the same for myself.
I'm visiting him this weekend. . . He just doesn't know it bacause His friend invited me and my other friend is picking me up.

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10 Name: Don : 2008-04-16 07:16 ID:UT8NXh7k

You have to stop being shy sooner or later. If you can't open to this guy how do you expect to know how he feels.

11 Name: Don : 2008-04-16 07:16 ID:UT8NXh7k

You have to stop being shy sooner or later. If you can't open to this guy how do you expect to know how he feels.

12 Name: Browneyes : 2008-04-16 09:19 ID:l3+ctJcs

fine... dudes damn don't have to point it out so blatantly that i'm wrong... I guess me and my friends just dont like it too much.

since majority rules... in this dumb dumb society... I say you go for it then. ok see the reason i said that as the general rule in the first place, guys are less shy about asking girls out in general (than the other way around), so if he knows that youre single and has not asked you out, it may be that he isn't really too interested or he has someone else on his mind right now.

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13 Name: Browneyes : 2008-04-16 09:42 ID:l3+ctJcs

oh btw, the thing about the texting should have been to motivate you further, since I do not have a guy friend who actually likes texting... but then I may be wrong in this as well.

ok from what i read so far, i think you actually have a good chance with this guy, the previous post just had some things for you to consider... so don't get me wrong, I actually think you should go for it.

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14 Name: Elle : 2008-04-16 14:50 ID:mzMURt4T

He's been hinting to me, that he's intreseted, like asking me how my family would handle a guy of his description and all that.
So when guys text it's a good thing?
Well we have been texting until 4 am regularly. . . it's killing my sleeping schedule.

15 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-04-16 15:02 ID:Mb/tW12w

>>14
I would try to get him to graduate to actual voice conversations, if possible. If he seems receptive to the idea, that's a good sign.
..Although what's all this about 'a guy of his description'..?

16 Name: Browneyes : 2008-04-16 20:49 ID:l3+ctJcs

well ok so for me and a lot of my dude friends, texting is very bothersome.. especially texting until 4...

but girls love to text and if and only if i have any interest in a girl would i text back.

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17 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-04-19 04:01 ID:px4/tw+U

IS there something new?

18 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-04-19 18:01 ID:LTDZmY4T

She's probably busy making out with him, since she said she's going to visit him this weekend.

At least, that's what I like to think. ;)

19 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-04-20 03:11 ID:R3TlFI6f

Just bone him already!!!!!! GAWDS DAMMMMMIIIIIITTTTTT

20 Name: 5664 : 2008-04-21 23:30 ID:stMpVy0I

>>19
xD She can't bone him yet! Jeez...seriously, she needs to take this step by step

>>15

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21 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-04-23 05:31 ID:TW9OuJYx

I'm also curious about what this "description" is...

22 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-04-24 02:59 ID:Heaven

ORZ

23 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-04-24 05:31 ID:eN3ngRPy

>>5 that is terrible advice. I can't stand "huggy" girls. They hug everyone too and its so stupid. And flirting is bullshit too...it's all fake and full of games.

But I don't Elle is doing that stuff anyways. lol hope not.

24 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-04-24 12:17 ID:AhQtLUE7

>>4
Seconded. The number of times it's taken me weeks, months or even YEARS to realise through the wonderful power of hindsight that a girl liked me... so yeah, guys generally suck at reading "hints"

25 Name: 5 : 2008-04-24 14:27 ID:d+tHw4je

>>23

Ah, really? I mostly just hug people when I first see them in a day and when I'm saying goodbye. It's a way of showing my friends I care about them, getting the basic physical contact I need, and provides a good excuse to be close to anyone I'm interested in.

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26 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-04-24 18:12 ID:yqBi15zz

Yeah but many women flirt just because it IS fun, whether they have an interest in the guy or not. It's not genuine. I figured you hugged all your friends too. So when they guy you like sees you hugging other guys too, then he gets confused. That's why I stay away from huggers.

27 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-04-24 18:12 ID:yqBi15zz

Yeah but many women flirt just because it IS fun, whether they have an interest in the guy or not. It's not genuine. I figured you hugged all your friends too. So when they guy you like sees you hugging other guys too, then he gets confused. That's why I stay away from huggers.

28 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-04-24 18:13 ID:yqBi15zz

Yeah but many women flirt just because it IS fun, whether they have an interest in the guy or not. It's not genuine. I figured you hugged all your friends too. So when they guy you like sees you hugging other guys too, then he gets confused. That's why I stay away from huggers.

29 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-04-24 18:18 ID:z2GXRIfS

You know, men can flirt solely for fun too.