>therefore, she probably has been dropping other hints about you not being the right person for her, and apparently you must have been a very dense person... and now she's resorting to "Look at that guy!" tactic
If OP wasn't the right person for her, she would have dumped her or just fucked somebody else. What's going on here seems to be that she is just talking about stuff that she sees no problem with, but its actually very hurtful for a guy to hear those things. I just don't think shes thought about how it would feel for her if it was the other way round, and so is just saying things that she should keep to herself.