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[Otaku-ex] Any advice? (10)


1 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-04-27 21:37 ID:NIPMdpMs

I used to date a female otaku, she was quite attractive too. Every friday she'd come around my place and we'll watch some anime but because she wanted to go home early, about 4pm, I only had about 3 hours with her a week, barring the anime club we met at we didn't get far and broke up a few days after her birthday, this January.

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2 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-04-28 05:08 ID:Heaven

Jesus. Sounds like you were one CHAMPION of a boyfriend.

Either that, or she was a fucking bitch. Either way...how old are you? That would give us some clues as to what advice to give you. And really, you haven't given us much context for the breakup.

3 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-04-28 13:32 ID:Ibg8JPiw

Mmmm... can be a lot of reasons. first of all, she's an otaku girl right? so she's not thinking according to the standards. Which means she might have felt that she wasnt enough, she might have felt that it wasn't anything for her, she might have had something bad comming her way and didn't want to get you involved, she might have trust issues and couldn't handle it anymore, etc.

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4 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-04-28 14:55 ID:nnJjBs3v

Must agree with the above posters... There's something strange, something admittedly not being said... I suppose there's no chance of it being said, since it's been awhile, not like this happened yesterday...

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5 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-04-29 01:10 ID:NIPMdpMs

I'm 18, finishing my first year of university, she was my first girlfriend, I was too shy for my own good for most of the time I was in secondary school and only got confidence when it was too late.

As for the context well I just came back from the first time I've been home (I live in London while she lives in Lancashire, in the same town as the university we go to which is 4-6 hours apart) while I was with her. On her birthday I went into her work, gave her her presents but I was too late to ask her out for lunch.

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6 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-04-30 03:01 ID:9prDed7t

good, then. i had a feeling that she was in her own little world...and i believe you were trying hard to at least get some time with her.

you know what though, there are other girls out there (plenty of otaku girls too!!)...just be patient and enjoy your anime as a single 4 a while.

7 Name: >>4 : 2008-04-30 11:50 ID:nnJjBs3v

#4 here.

>>6 Speaks the truth! I had a feeling that was the case myself, having been in a similar relationship!

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8 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-05-07 18:19 ID:3dRIPa39

Sorry to reply so late I've had my finals and deadlines. There's one more thing I wanted to ask. This year there's this anime convention which I'm going to. Initially I didn't think of going but she convinced me and I booked, thankfully some of my friends are coming too. It's a three day con and there's a chance I'll bump into her.
Should I talk to her, to see how she's doing? I don't think she'll be the one to start a conversation.

9 Name: >>4 : 2008-05-08 12:15 ID:nnJjBs3v

#4 here,
Sure, why not; Regardless of what happened between you, remember, be cool & confident as yourself, a average, single guy;

Don't dwell on the past, or even give her any reason to think she "got" to you by breaking up or anything;

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10 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-05-09 17:52 ID:MIHGfmj+

Thanks, everyone this helped a lot. If I didn't ask on here I probably would have asked her instead.
Also I'd probably sound a bit pathetic and desperate too.