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16 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-05-03 11:06 ID:guuM7htZ

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> Just a while ago I asked her friend to ask her if she still needed help and the reply I got was (tl;dr version) "He is too serious about things."

Um, yeah..I can understand where she's coming from. She's not implying that you're a prude. But she reckons that you're a bit too confronting and you take things too seriously because:

  1. You were too forceful. Could have helped through friend and then the next day approach her about the issue. "Do you find me scary? <insert something to make her laugh>" Let her know that you're friendly, approachable and at the same time, concerned (just a little) so that she gets worried about hurting your feelings and makes an effort next time.
  2. You bothered to follow up on it afterwards. It's like you gave her an ultimatum, and then re-offered it to her. Can't really explain it, but my response would also be along the lines of "Er, what?" followed by "Nah."