What would it be? Would it be a crush you felt you should have asked out? A relationship you feel you could have saved? Its really not to good to be looking back on the past like this, but sometimes it can be fun to fantasies about what could have been.
you did the right thing. i also liked a girl for a long time before without telling her. then i told her i want to be friends, she did give me some contact number but completely ignore me after that. then i just told her i like her and she rejected me. i personally never regretted it though. i never really regret doing anything even when it turn out worse then that. it's a colourful part of my life and it made me who i am. i much rather fail spectacularly then not have enough passion to try something bold.
Wish I could go back to yesterday and actually talk to this girl at Ikea.
I don't know that I'd do anything differently.
Even the girl who obviously liked me, who kept hanging around me, trying to start conversation, who even one day walked up to me and laid her head on my shoulder. Even when I froze up and couldn't move, and then started to squirm away and push her aside because I couldn't handle physical contact. Even when we never spoke again after that day. Even that, I wouldn't go back and change.
Although I don't regret the decision to loving my current girlfriend...I always wondered this...
There was this girl in high school that was (like my girlfriend) a girl met by accident. We met after my dumbass best friend pushed me into a crowd during a school dance cause no other girls would dance with me. Actually, she's been trying to dance with me all night, and we ended up being together the rest of the time there.
I'd not have talked to her in the first place.
It is messy.
but wouldn't you regret losing the time that you two did have together, wasn't the dance a wonderful day in your life?
No, not really. I suppose I shouldn't have ever been in a relationship in the first place, because having to think to feel emotion instead of letting unidentified feelings sweep you away is how I was the entire time. So, when I wasn't thinking about her, I didn't give a shit. And when I was physically with her, in bed, having sex, I exerted all my mental capacities just to find a reason for having stayed with her, for having been fucking her, and for telling her that I 'loved' her, when I honestly did not. She threatened to kill herself often if I didn't 'get back' together with her. Therefore I often did so at the expense of my time, and the sparing of her life.
I'm in exactly the same situation as you, only that she still believes I love her.
I'm not made for romance too, but maybe in a different way than you.
>maybe she did it
I meant killing herself, not communicating with me.
>>11 Its because you probably have emotional instabilities as well, being attracted to people with the propensity towards psycho-ness is really telling, normal healthy people are attracted to other normal healthy people.
I'm aware, it just occured to me after you posted that it bothers me a lot. I mean, IRL, I lack emotions. And I keep involving myself in these situations where I know I don't want any part of in the end. Just because even just for that certain moment, I felt the thing I am usually lacking on, emotions, specifically, love. Then I tell myself that I can handle it till the end, but I can't.