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1 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-05-21 04:44 ID:HQDLLqrq

Okay, I'm in an interesting situation I think.

I don't really feel like going into the full backstory here so I'll cover the main points.

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2 Name: Akina : 2008-05-21 04:52 ID:lvbJyKL8

Chat with her as often as possible, if you want to ask her on a 'date' don't start off as a date.

Find her interests, and act on it.

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3 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-05-22 04:11 ID:HQDLLqrq

I see what you're getting at. It'll be a little more difficult I guess than just being so general like that. What with working around language and cultural barriers (I'm not sure what those would be though). But we'll see. I work with her tomorrow.

4 Name: Akina : 2008-05-22 06:19 ID:lvbJyKL8

Ok, keep me updated.

5 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-05-30 15:49 ID:HQDLLqrq

So she didn't work last week, but worked this week. And she had brought up the question as to whether or not I like Chinese food. I said yes, though somewhat embarassed because I've never had "real" Chinese food. And then she extends the invitation to have me over for dinner, so she can cook Chinese food for me. I agreed, though I think it'll be tough to fit into my schedule this weekend (which sucks).

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6 Name: Kira : 2008-06-01 04:06 ID:GEAnTfpK

That's good. Anyways, watching movie for the first date is the worst idea. If you want to give good impression to the person, you need to show them how funny/cool/etc. you are. So First date should be a place where two people can talk or do like movie and dinner and such. Funny thing is that, I usually take girls(friends) that I know to movies xD(Of course, with friends it's ok)

7 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-06-04 04:43 ID:wRvH+clt

She likes you. Culturally, she made the best move by asking to cook for you. You should reciprocate by finding something to do relevant to her culture. Once on the actual date, you can ask about movies, etc. (Maybe suggest watching a Chinese movie with English subtitles? This could lead in plenty of interesting directions.) Ask her about her culture and her likes, and it should go well.

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8 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-06-07 15:47 ID:lNRzwb++

Foreigners probably don't come to America to watch foreign movies. I bet she just wants to see Indiana Jones. You have a car? Make sure you keep a frisbee in it. Does she like animals? Maybe she'd want to meet your pets. She's probably taking lots of pictures of everything, offer to take her picture if she does.

9 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-06-07 17:42 ID:HQDLLqrq

Well we're both students. Just at school over the summer (myself, only for half though). Then I'm going to be out of the country for a year. And I am lacking a car, so just about all of those options are out.

And given the short time I have, I'm not looking to necessarily get into a relationship, but the other sort of experience helps. In a small way I see it as getting my foot in the door for the whole relationship buisness. A good confidence builder too. Plus she's a really nice girl to boot. But anyways, I have dinner with her tomorrow, so we'll see how that goes.

10 Name: Akina : 2008-06-09 09:52 ID:lvbJyKL8

You should just try to spend as much time as you can with her. Make sure you are able to talk to her on the phone/Computer, and you do that. That way you two can get used to communicating in other ways that one. Just be a REALLY good guy to her. After this, you'll have your foot in the metaphorical relationship door.

11 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-06-30 05:44 ID:V8t9f/0i

Well I know it's been a while but I went on 3 or 4 dates with her (the first dinner got pushed back a bit). Had a great time. Went on a couple of walks together afterward. Then on my last night in town she told me she liked me and we kissed. It was strange, awkward, wonderful and, given the circumstances, somewhat bitter.

12 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-08-18 13:19 ID:Heaven

>>11
So it's been two months since your last news, so are you guys still together? I'm just saying that it wouldn't hurt to make the most of your time right now, though if either of you couldn't bear to grow apart (should you really move) then I guess you just have to cross over that bridge when you get there. ^_^

13 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-10-13 09:39 ID:+xICHUi1

Turns out, that was the end. I'm not sad about, not happy about it either I guess. It was a good experience, interesting to say the least, and I can strike many things off of my list of "must do"s.

I left, we didn't really keep in touch, and sort of fell out of contact. I don't think I could've kept with it for that long due to many other things that came up, but again, it was interesting.

14 Name: Bitter Asian Man : 2008-10-16 19:18 ID:0imwFBhe

Conclusion: if you're white, foreign Asian girls will go for you. No matter how creepy or horrible you are/look. If you're also Asian, whether or not you're a twinkie (me), no matter what sort of person you are, you're SOL.

15 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-10-16 19:23 ID:RYGYmyYd

>>14
Maybe you're just mixing with the wrong crowd,... I know few asians in my environment, but the one I know is popular with the (white) girls.

16 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-10-16 22:02 ID:EQG+33kj

>>15
But that probably means nothing if he's interested in Asian girls. As we all know, Asian girls like white and black guys.