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25 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-05-27 22:32 ID:u7mGvgfm

>>21 and >>23 :

> i'm not the type of girl who actually likes to take the first step. You can call me old-fashioned, but that's how I am.

Have you considered the possibility that he's the type of guy who actually likes girls to take the first step? You could call him new-fashioned, but that's how he is? The only way to be sure is to take the first step. Also, I'm sure you're not old-fashioned in other things that did not traditionally favour women.

> If he's really interested in me, why isn't he the one who says something?

Because he may think exactly like you. And if that's the case, nobody would.

> I don't really like the idea of him noticing me in other way and considering having something with me only after I confessed.

Why not?

> Shouldn't he think that way of me before? I think it's more real and romantic than only noticing me after.

It's more romantic if he does. But some girls get pissed off at guys for thinking like that. So we just don't know what to do with you, really.

> Or am I being completely silly thinking this way?

Yes, you are being completely silly thinking this way. I have no doubt about it.

> I don't want to be a "female who might be a potential fuck buddy".

Then let him know clearly. Anything you want him to know, just tell him. It's simple and straightforward, and he'll love the sincerity and easyness. And contrary to what you might think, not all guys just think of fuck buddies. Many of us also think about serious relationships and love, but girls tend to assume we're only in for the fucks.

> God if there's anything that totally ruins the romance, is THAT THOUGHT!

You're unusually romantic for a girl. I like it. I have discovered that, contrary to popular belief, males aged 20 and over can be much more romantic than females of similar ages. If he's a good guy (good as in caring, nice, not the typical loud jerk scum most girls go after), chances are that he'll be romantic.

> but hell, I can wait.

Okay, take a seat because you sound like you'll wait until your 60s.