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Girls Asking Guys Out?? (32)


1 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-05-24 04:25 ID:GbISUBj/

my friends and i talk a lot about girls asking guys out and whether or not guys find it too assertive. i for one could prolly never do it because i get really shy around the guys i like, and i really dont want to start a relationship off with me in the "leadership role". You know what i mean??

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2 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-05-24 04:50 ID:mc2aReyB

>>1

we love it!

3 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-05-24 06:25 ID:x0UNityb

My god, I'd love to be asked out. Maybe I'm just cowardly or something. (((*_*)))

4 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-05-24 06:35 ID:rXV/IaFp

It really sounds like the sweetest thing I could ever think off. Really, I would absolutely love it if I was asked out by a girl.

5 Name: 43 : 2008-05-24 07:24 ID:pA7ED5zX

>do guys feel demasculanated when girls ask them out?

Not at all. If a guy happens to feel this way he'd probably have issues with his masculinity anyway.

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6 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-05-24 08:23 ID:s41kj3I4

When I was 16, a girl was finding all sorts of excuses to hang out with me...but I found it uncomfortable then, I wasn't ready for a relationship. I didn't feel "demasculinated" though, and I don't really care much about the "leadership role", I was just too young

7 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-05-24 19:36 ID:GbISUBj/

is it really hard for guys to ask girls out??
i dont want to sound rude but i mean is it kinda scary for you?
cause i know as a girl asking a guy out it would scare the crud out of me

8 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-05-24 19:36 ID:GbISUBj/

is it really hard for guys to ask girls out??
i dont want to sound rude but i mean is it kinda scary for you?
cause i know as a girl asking a guy out it would scare the crud out of me

9 Name: 43 : 2008-05-24 23:55 ID:pA7ED5zX

>>7

>is it really hard for guys to ask girls out??
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10 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-05-25 01:47 ID:dkSiF6N+

>>7

In my case, it's terrifying because I'd have to do enough research to make absolutely certain that it was okay to ask her out -- in other words, that she was available and not likely to be completely disgusted by my asking her.

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11 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-05-25 02:56 ID:BUe4IJ+9

>>7

I'll be 29 soon and have never asked a girl out.. maybe I need a girl to save me? :/

12 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-05-25 03:37 ID:l51lUcFf

>>1

  1. No, we love it. Girls are so difficult to read, with all that hinting seductive crap. If you say what you want, you have the highest chances of getting what you want.
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13 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-05-25 05:47 ID:GbISUBj/

>>9

>>-Is it hard for girls to reject a guy they're not interested in?

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14 Name: 43 : 2008-05-25 06:09 ID:pA7ED5zX

>>13

Thanks for your answers, I just thought of another question: When a chick says "no" or says she's not interested, does that mean you have to try harder or it means definitively NO?

15 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-05-25 06:39 ID:GbISUBj/

>14
>When a chick says "no" or says she's not interested, does that mean you have to try harder or it means definitively NO?
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16 Name: 43 : 2008-05-25 08:06 ID:pA7ED5zX

>>15

Thank you, it does help indeed.

17 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-05-25 11:54 ID:l51lUcFf

>>15
Thanks for the tip

18 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-05-25 17:50 ID:NUzHyWGI

  1. I don't mind. I wish more girls did it.
  2. I think I'd hate it. I would like to have a say in things and if I were wearing the pants I would give her the right to have a say in things too.

19 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-05-26 02:43 ID:GbISUBj/

i'm going to kick some questions back at you!!

-Is it hard for guys to reject a girl they're not interested in?

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20 Name: 43 : 2008-05-26 08:01 ID:pA7ED5zX

>Is it hard for guys to reject a girl they're not interested in?

I've had 3 females confessing to me, one of them was difficult to reject because she was my friend. Other, was slightly difficult to reject because I liked the attention. And the last one was easy to reject as I had no interest in her at all and I was certain she didn't know me at all so she was solely based on my appearance.

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21 Name: 43 : 2008-05-26 08:04 ID:Heaven

Oh, I forgot to mention there was a 4th confession, I didn't reject that one. She was good looking and when she approached me I thought it was a joke/she was making fun of me so I went like "yeah, whatever" but it turned out she was serious.

22 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-05-26 17:34 ID:ZFK/UDpU

Yeah once a girl asked me out and shes like would you like to go out on a date and i was like "Yeah.. yeah! sure i'd love to, i gotta party coming up this weekend do you want to go?"

it was a smooth transaction

23 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-05-27 02:10 ID:UDoHQ4qB

  1. I would love it if a girl asked me out, why don't girls ask guys out? They just drop hints, its difficult for us to understand.
  2. I'd find if hot if the woman took control, then again, I'm kind of maschositic

24 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-05-27 06:44 ID:naWB5iVt

>>23

  1. yeah but i guess there is a huge stigma about girls asking girls it just seems wrong somehow.

25 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-05-27 18:53 ID:ALsz2sJ2

I don't know, as dramatic as the whole 'confession' scene we see in anime/manga (maybe it's just a japanese thing, but it usually seems to be the girl confessing?) is, I don't think there needs to even be something as official as -asking someone out-. Shouldn't it be handled as casually as saying 'hey, let's go do something', and hoping for the best?

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26 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-05-27 22:36 ID:l51lUcFf

>>24
Yeah, today's sexual equality ends when it comes to female advantages.

> we see in anime/manga (maybe it's just a japanese thing, but it usually seems to be the girl confessing?)
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27 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-05-28 06:32 ID:h/M5xqJF

>> 26
>I don't know to what extent is it Japanese culture, and to what extent is it male wishful thinking in anime directed towards males.

lolz!

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28 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-06-03 08:03 ID:PfLX3Ktl

I personally would love a girl straight up asking me out, more than most things in the world. This is especially true because of the situations I've had to go through with past girls. Almost every girl I have liked I stressed and strained to see the "clues" being dropped, only to see false signs within a normal friendship. I guess my biggest handicap is I have never had a normal girl who sincerely wanted to become romantically entangled with me, so with no basis to judge, it's incredibly hard to tell what is friendly, and what is flirting.

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29 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-06-03 12:48 ID:dGXtCFOe

Something kind of like this but not exactly the same, but last week I received a girl's phone number without actually asking for it.

30 Name: Thunder!RQhIqRxs5I!!QiI33I8Q : 2008-06-03 16:39 ID:RqiRQp/M

I'm the type of girl who's direct and aggressive, but the one time I confessed it didn't end well, and my current situation, where I was basically the pursuer, isn't going so hot, either.

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31 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-06-03 21:46 ID:h/M5xqJF

>>30

here here!!!

32 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-06-04 03:26 ID:UMh06zzb

>>27
>>30

While I recognize that a guy who doesn't show initiative would be boring and annoying, there's a difference between him doing nothing and him having trouble getting started.

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