Ok so any advice, espesially from the male set would be great!!
so last summer i worked out at a camp and met this great guy, we talked all the time and hung out alot, and were even a little flirty. and i ended up developing a bug time crush on him. then the summer ends and he heads of to Europe for 6 months, the first 3 months are great and we are talking all the time.uses phrasing like miss you too, love you more. or ending letters with love you. Then the fourth and 5 month we dont talk at all because he goes into countries he cant get at the interweb from. month 6 we are talking and he says how excited he is to hang out again, its going to be great cant wait to see me.
i think him giving you the bracelet back.. bc it's been with him all over the world is kinda sweet of him! perhaps he thinks he's doing sth sweet, while you don't think so, and want him to wear it. if it really bothers you that much, you should tell him about it and give it back to him.
It was awkward when you met up after him getting back from Europe because you had months of "love you/love you more!" kinda behaviour without any actual contact, so when you meet up in real life it's like you two are still physically awkward with each other while in your heads you've got all these words and you don't know if it's OK to use those words in physical contact.
Talk to him about all this, be open with him, for a fucking change. If you've been all sweet-hearty with eachother you have every justification to ask if there's something going on. Would it kill you to tell him how you feel, and ask him what he feels?
Yeah looking back now, i can see that it was actually a really sweet thing to do, and i have gotton over it. and i feel completely stupid for getting my gaunch all in a knot over it.
Ok so, i think the consensus is just suck it up and say something but does anyone have any advice on how to do this??
I am 20, and have never had a boyfriend, or even asked out for that matter. Except this one total jerk i knew who asked me out as a joke. but anyway, i have no idea how to ask a guy out.
Looks like he doesn't talk to you that much lately anyway. You might as well go for it.
Lol, weird i was in the same situation as you. I chose to go with the flow and accept her. We went out alot of times,almost were a couple but her bitchy attitude (like your guy) got to me. What i'm saying is, you might end up having an "unhealthy relationship". IF you don't want to be with him,i suggest cutting all your ties (friendship too) because otherwise you will end up going in circles (like you do now).
lol but what do i say!!
"hello... good talking to you again... btw i really like you.. as more then a friend... have for a really long time... just thought i would throw that out there "
>"hello... good talking to you again... btw i really like you.. as more then a friend... have for a really long time... just thought i would throw that out there "
Perfect. Say it witha laugh, not like it's something horrible.
ha ha ha ha ha ha
thanks guys that was totally not the response i was expecting to get from you!!!
we will see... i am not sure when i am going to see him next but i will keep you posted...
I say person!
If you ask online, seeing him afterward irl may be a bit awkward at first but in person the awkwardness seems to go away almost immediately.
In person, definitely. Otherwise you will have the same awkward situation lke you had after his abscence: big words in your head, but no physical contact.
In person. Definitely.
thanks guys you rock!!!
No problem! Good luck and keep us posted!
Just to throw something in here; the whole him not talking a lot for a few months may have been because he had other stuff to figure out. He may also find it somewhat awkward to ask you out to do things, but is fine when you're going to be around each other normally.
k so i haven't told him yet, but through a series of very strange events it came to some mutual friends of ours that i liked him. and it would seem that they had no idea and they said i was really good at hiding it... THIS IS NOT A GOOD THING!!
i recently made friends with a mutual friend of the guy i like, and she and i have been talking alot since we met. turns out she has been pretty jilted in the past year. So her way of cheering herself up is to find a new guy to like. The problem is she THINKS she likes the same guy i like, but not only that she also like THREE OTHER GUYS!!! and she is flirting with all of them!!
Don' worry about it, some people are just like that (it also applies to males).