About a year and a half ago, I developed a huge crush on a guy that works at the same place I do on a different shift. I admired him from a distance for months, shyly smiling at him when we accidentally made eye contact, and later nervously saying "hi" when we'd pass each other on our way in/out of our work place. About a year ago I initiated a verbal exchange that lead to us saying a little more than "hello" each day and months later lead to us spending time together outside of work.
>I must sound like the typical "bitch" female who toys with men's emotions and uses them for things.
Just a question, OP, how old are you?
Does he actually become less desirable to you or are you just scared?
You might also be destroying his chances, might I add. Just go for it or find someone else.
Also, I'm kinda in that situation too, but on the male front. OP, what'd you like me to do?
I know how you feel because I've been in the same situation 3 years ago. I really liked this guy, made everything to catch his attention and when I was absolutely sure He was into me, I begun holding back and eventually ruined everything we could've had.
I can say I've changed a lot since then, and I do regret what I did, because he now is dating for almost one year and he's all happy and I felt like shit for a long time. But that's past now and we're still good friends. I do now realize that the feelings I had towards him were not interely honest.
>>strong hints about his feelings --- my bad, I meant "your"
Counseling services. Go to them. Seriously, this sounds too complex for a BBS.