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Hot to the Cold and Cold to the Hot (8)

1 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-06-01 08:02 ID:qzXTsTRR

About a year and a half ago, I developed a huge crush on a guy that works at the same place I do on a different shift. I admired him from a distance for months, shyly smiling at him when we accidentally made eye contact, and later nervously saying "hi" when we'd pass each other on our way in/out of our work place. About a year ago I initiated a verbal exchange that lead to us saying a little more than "hello" each day and months later lead to us spending time together outside of work.

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2 Name: 43 : 2008-06-01 12:03 ID:rgiplKsb

>I must sound like the typical "bitch" female who toys with men's emotions and uses them for things.


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3 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-06-01 13:29 ID:DV2ppXXJ

Just a question, OP, how old are you?

Does he actually become less desirable to you or are you just scared?

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4 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-06-01 13:53 ID:Mc0ahban

You might also be destroying his chances, might I add. Just go for it or find someone else.

Also, I'm kinda in that situation too, but on the male front. OP, what'd you like me to do?

5 Name: CinemaGirl : 2008-06-01 14:15 ID:EQn8Vg+m

I know how you feel because I've been in the same situation 3 years ago. I really liked this guy, made everything to catch his attention and when I was absolutely sure He was into me, I begun holding back and eventually ruined everything we could've had.
I can say I've changed a lot since then, and I do regret what I did, because he now is dating for almost one year and he's all happy and I felt like shit for a long time. But that's past now and we're still good friends. I do now realize that the feelings I had towards him were not interely honest.

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6 Name: CinemaGirl : 2008-06-01 14:16 ID:EQn8Vg+m

>>strong hints about his feelings --- my bad, I meant "your"

7 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-06-04 04:37 ID:TOEJa3gv

Counseling services. Go to them. Seriously, this sounds too complex for a BBS.

8 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-06-04 05:45 ID:p3FW0GGL

If he's smart, he WILL lose interest if you keep this up. If you really want to be with him, don't push him away when he actually shows interest...just resist the urge to, as best you can.

I faced a similar situation in college. The girl behaved in the same way, and eventually pushed me away one time too many. Be careful.