So, not sure how many people are actually paying attention, but here goes.
I am a 27 year-old male, located in the south-central area of the U.S. 5'9", about 185lbs. and a bit out of shape. I'm a college graduate and work in the IT department of a large retailer making pretty good money for this area. Not that it's really related to this thread.
"Keep looking for someone who makes your heart skip a beat"
the truth is, i have been in the same situation (still are) and i have dated alot but there was never 'that spark'..sometimes only one sided and it was kinda akward to keep up with the excuses to not go out on a third date.
OP, it sounds to me that you just lack dating experience, period. Love at first sight is a nice concept, but not actually a realistic one.
Most of what people describe as "love at first sight" or as a "crush" is that tingling rush of hormones/adrenaline/excitement. I see it as infatuation, and infatuation fades.
Attracted? Hm.. well, as far as personality goes, I usually never have the opportunity to find out what their personality is like - or rather, I never make the opportunity. As for looks... strangely, I have never found society's 'default' ideal of beauty to be all that appealing. You can show me someone that my gay friend would say 'even I'd hit that!' and I'll usually be 'yeah, she's alright... I can see what you're talking about.' But not be particularly moved. Maybe I just prefer 'cute' over 'sexy'.
>>I don't know. Your advice is sound, I guess I'm just nervous about putting effort into getting to know someone when there doesn't seem to be any underlying emotions involved.
OP, If you take a car, offer to carpool... Once in awhile maybe a girl would pop up. If that does happen, ask her if she takes this route routinely. I'm sure you can squeeze in 5-10 mins getting home later than usual. Who knows, maybe she'll get interested. ^-^
go out there to meet people. waiting for love at first sight you have a good chance to die alone. make more friend of opposite sex is the way to go.
OP, I think we're of the same kind. My relationships have all been long distance, though I did stay with one and she with me for a few days here and there. What I've gotten the gist of is that there's no such thing as love at first sight, and that you also have to purposefully engage in deeper conversation. If you sit and talk about meaningless things or about your feelings all of the time (or those things you agree on), you're not going to know if you'd really fit or like a girl long term.
What kind of activities do you like to do? Going out to places where groups of people with similar interests to you is a good way to meet women. For instance, if you're a gaming/comic nerd, try hanging out at your friendly local gamestore, especially at any events they might sponsor that coincide with a specific interest you have. (Although, perhaps game store was a bad suggestion, as there don't tend to be too many of us women there...)
If you're a gaming/comic nerd, keep that to yourself when you talk to women ^_^
Well, first of all that internet relationship wasn't real. You were just plugged into the wall. Second, love at first sight isn't real at all. There's instant attraction and that's it. How can you fall in love with someone you don't even know? It doesn't make sense.
What I like to do:
um.... exercise every now and then to become less flabby