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[Rant] Love at first sight ?[Theory] (14)


1 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-06-03 01:30 ID:eKqEXoth

So, not sure how many people are actually paying attention, but here goes.

I am a 27 year-old male, located in the south-central area of the U.S. 5'9", about 185lbs. and a bit out of shape. I'm a college graduate and work in the IT department of a large retailer making pretty good money for this area. Not that it's really related to this thread.

The thought I've been coming to is that, at the age of 27, I've never really dated. At all. My singular 'relationship' was back in high school, with a girl who lived several hundred miles away in another state. We were only able to physically meet once, for a few days. I like to think that that relationship was 'real', in that we truly cared for each other, but the simple fact is that having an 'internet girlfriend', you miss out on a lot of the subtleties of maintaining a relationship.

This was 10 years ago. And I haven't so much as held a girl's hand since then.

At this point, I realize that the older I get while having no practical experience in dealing with the fair sex, the worse off I'll be. So, I have begun actively keeping an eye out for interesting women to potentially pursue. Here's the thing though...

I can't seem to find anyone with the unique combination of looks and personality to immediately make me think 'Damn, I've got to get to know her...'

I know that 'love at first sight' is pretty much purely biological, but it seems like when you encounter someone who closely matches what you are looking for, there should be SOMETHING that makes you get nervous and tingly and all that good shit. I haven't felt that - towards anyone, really - in a long, long time. Logically, it seems that would be helpful in really evaluating a person - are our personalities and interests compatible, do we want the same things, would this be a good partnership? Very reasonable, being able to put their qualities in perspective. But hell, am I only looking for a business partner?! Someone to share a house and bills with, household chores, etc.? That's a horrible way to look at it.

I'm not really sure what sort of advice I'm asking for, or if I'm even asking for advice. Just a thought I had to get off my chest.

How about it, folks? Keep looking for someone who makes my heart skip a beat, or be more pragmatic and find someone I can spend the next 50 years with peacefully?