>>I don't know. Your advice is sound, I guess I'm just nervous about putting effort into getting to know someone when there doesn't seem to be any underlying emotions involved.
I'm pretty much the same way. Not being a particularly social person by nature, I find that if I'm going to spend the time and effort to get to know someone, I'd like to have some sort of reasonable assurance beforehand that we'll at least be able to get along as friends. Otherwise, I'm a very busy person, and there are scores of things that I'd rather be doing instead of hanging around parties like some barfly.