>>As for >>7 Don't hope, don't care and she will be there.
I'm not >>7, but I've been not hoping and not caring for over ten years now. And you know what? If girls catch on that you don't care (and they will, believe me), they certainly won't "be there."
Think about it: why would a girl want to date someone who apparently shows no interest whatsoever in dating? Or in her?
If you truly don't hope and don't care, all you'll ever see from it is more of the status quo. Personally, I've accepted that, but nobody in >>7's position should delude himself into thinking that remaining aloof will cause girls to fall into his lap.