so, theirs this girl (lol, wow, original eh?) that im pretty into...
but i hate regection. it sucks. generally, being the shy person i am when it comes to dating, i wait till i know if their intrested or not.
were ok friends, and i want to ask her out...but i dont want a 'no' answer. i dont even know if shes thinking of dating atm, but i want her TO if i ask.
dont ask them to come out cos thats wussy. be casual about it and say something like "we should go get lunch sometime" or go catch a movie or something. dont act as if she is the one in control. women want a man in control because thats what we do best; they dont want a pussy who begs for their acceptance.
Says it harsh but has it right.
Ask "Let's go to lunch", or "Hey, I take you out to lunch on xxx", or even more ballsy "Ok, so xxxday, xxx hour for the lunch, don't be late".
Watch out though, some girls may few pressured into going out with you and may read some of your actions as hostile because of this. If she's a shy passive kind of girl being direct may affront her and make her even shyer.
bleh. #2 middle ""Hey, I take you out to lunch on xxx"," sounds about right :p
Not if you say it in a 'funny/relaxed' way. It triggers complicity, and shows you're able and willing to take the lead. Which is especially effective on shy girls.
Say it like this : Friday - Movies - Date - Be ready. (100%bonus effect is said at the end of the day,activity)
thanks everyone. half those sound like me anyway :p
now i just need to do it....