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Alone Time Vs Time Together (12)


1 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-06-23 03:37 ID:Rk7iqCmJ

Alright. I'm sorry if this is a kind of long post, but I've just gotta get it all out there. The other night, my boyfriend and I, with whom I've been with for well over a year, had a discussion over time together. He's been trying to get a job, but he's been busy hanging out with me and his friends, and he's stuck in a rut. I've tried to help, like finding him jobs and such, but whenever I did give him alone time, he didn't get much accomplished. Now, he told me that he needs more alone time til he gets a job, so I won't be seeing him much( probably only 2-3 days a week). Since it's summer time, I've been seeing him more, but on average, we spend time together about...3/4 times a week. He has a job now, so when he has work, I'm by myself, and I get super lonely.
I'm an only child, and I've always hated being alone, so it's hard, but I manage. I understand that he needs alone time, and I'm not stopping him...yet...why am I feeling uneasy? What can I do to ease my mind about all this and not feel as though I'm not wanted or if he's sick of me? I'm always feeling like I'm alone, and I hate it. I can't stand it. In the beginning of our relationship, we only saw each other once a week, and I couldn't imagine going back to that, (that was due to my mom, but that's not the case anymore).
I know we both love each other, and this is beneficially for both our futures, (since we want to live together), but what can I do to make my mind stop thinking and getting so paranoid about it? I suppose I'm just worried about the whole guy line, "I need space.." and then dumping me. I know that's not the case, but damn, what can I do to not cry myself to sleep over the loneliness and not fret about when I'm going to see him next? Help?