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Alone Time Vs Time Together (12)

1 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-06-23 03:37 ID:Rk7iqCmJ

Alright. I'm sorry if this is a kind of long post, but I've just gotta get it all out there. The other night, my boyfriend and I, with whom I've been with for well over a year, had a discussion over time together. He's been trying to get a job, but he's been busy hanging out with me and his friends, and he's stuck in a rut. I've tried to help, like finding him jobs and such, but whenever I did give him alone time, he didn't get much accomplished. Now, he told me that he needs more alone time til he gets a job, so I won't be seeing him much( probably only 2-3 days a week). Since it's summer time, I've been seeing him more, but on average, we spend time together about...3/4 times a week. He has a job now, so when he has work, I'm by myself, and I get super lonely.

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3 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-06-23 03:55 ID:Rk7iqCmJ


OP here. I know that sounded a bit excessive, and I should feel grateful for having someone in the first place, but my past is complicated and myeah. I had to use the word, lonely. I'm sorry I offended you, replier. I suppose I have nothing to complain about, but I've never been in a situaion like this, so I don't know how to feel. ><;

4 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-06-23 03:59 ID:Rk7iqCmJ

OP here again. Not to troll or nothing, but I forgot to add this. Even though your comment was harsh, I realize that I was being a stupid human and should enjoy my time spend with my boyfriend, even though it may not be as much as I would have wanted. a really odd way, I guess.

5 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-06-23 04:06 ID:Rk7iqCmJ

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6 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-06-23 05:07 ID:0Xx8A25v

> He has a job now, so when he has work, I'm by myself, and get super lonely.

This is one of the tragedies of modern life.

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7 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-06-23 15:26 ID:dt0PBGTh

Ok... First of all, don't be discouraged by the any harsh answers you were given in this thread thus far, OP; It's understandable that some people not currently in a relationship would feel put out to see that someone in a relationship is concerned over their loneliness, and we can't begrudge that (I've been there myself, many times)

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8 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-06-23 20:45 ID:Rk7iqCmJ


Thanks for your honest answer, and no, I know that my boyfriend isn't doing anything behind my back, and I realize that he needs time to relax and such as well, so thanks for pointing that out.

9 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-06-23 21:29 ID:lENcYBp5

its totally understandable to be feeling lonely because naturally you're going to miss the time you normally spend with him. The whole "needing space" its natural and well relationships are compromises right? Soo its just something you're going to have to deal with.

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10 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-06-23 21:30 ID:lENcYBp5

sorry i meant "not physically seeing him"

11 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-06-23 23:20 ID:Rk7iqCmJ


Hm, you're right. I've just gotta keep myself distracted and not think about him so much. It's just the hardest at night time, when I'm alone in bed, ya know? Maybe some music would help with that.

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12 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-06-25 01:02 ID:IQdg2Dyw

Is there something wrong with me? The OP mentioned she is bothered because she only sees her boyfriend 3-4 times a week. I'm really the independent type and if I'm in a relationship, I'm satisfied with 1-2 times a week. Four time in a week? That's over half of the whole thing!

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