In a person you are intersted in , what makes you love them more, what is it based on ?
Like, if a person you never thought as a lover before and you realized they have feelings for you, do you give up if they are bad looking? Or accept only because they are pretty? Do you care for their character or looks?
a male POV:
looks do matter to a degree, if her looks or behaviour is repulsive, i'd still turn them down. If shes average looking and has a very positive attitude, then i'd inevitably find her cute. Some girls don't look much, but when they smile everything changes.I go with my gut. If i have a good time around her or enjoy chatting with her a lot, i'd fix up a few dates and get to know her better. As long as her face isnt fubar, generally your personal perception of her beauty will change the more you like her. Her character on the other hand isn't up for you to change.
thats sort of like my case before until i felt the same feelings. well, i agree wif >>2 cos if the look of him/her just repulses u, it might not work at all. it goes for guys AND gurls- the appearance factor.
well, if he/she ain't that fabulous-looking, wat about the personality side? if he/she got a fun, loving side that simply makes up for the 'looks' department, i'd go wif >>2 n "fix up a few dates". n u can actually see from there how things might work out.
I'm not so much of a looks person. I tend to be interested in the ones that I can have an actual conversation with but not religious. Behaviour is pretty big too, since it's hard for me to like someone that will get on the table and strip for everyone at the first drop of alcohol.
Chemicals in the brain choose , not me.
Interesting answer... It's still your preferences that guide attraction.
Few women end up looking repulsive enough to me for that to be an issue.
Well, I agree it's interesting. And I'm not sure about your "it's still..." line. After all, sometimes we can be attracted to people we wouldn't habitually have considered matching our "preferences".
If I find out that someone is romantically interested in me after knowing them for more than a month or so, I will probably not be interested. Lack of reciprocation is a huge turn-off for me, second only to having a horrible personality.
If all girls are so fickle, then I don't feel quite so bad about never having been on a date.
How manichean of you. Is there really no middle ground in this?
I'm actually somewhere rather close to the middle ground. I'm dedicated and loving to people I have a real relationship with. My story was about someone who I had a small crush on and therefore saw an opportunity to be happy with. When the relationship didn't go anywhere, I lost interest.
i really hate to say it, but i am quite shallow. i'm a girl and generally, if a guy doesn't have at least average looks, i don't really have much interest in him. along with that i'm the opposite of >>9. I have to know the guy at least a month before i'll really consider dating him. I'd like to know if he's an asshole BEFORE i start dating him, thank you very much.
If I can communicate with my partner, and they not only listen to what I have to say, but understand what I say and are open to talk to me just as much...
Easily maintained relationship.
Well, I've been reading what everyone was saying, and it's kind of true when you look from everyones points...Well, I'm a girl who has a musical choice of 'Johnnys'(which is an entertainment agency that hires goodlooking boys and debuts boybands&actors etc.), and I enjoy good looking companions but when it's a choice of a real life crush, it has always been people that other people ask me "W...why?" about ww...