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Help Me Bridge The Gap Between Our Hearts (12)

1 Name: The Desperate One : 2008-07-11 00:47 ID:AiWvPh2E

Ok so here is the deal. I am a 20 year old male and have never had a girlfriend. Yesterday I finally got the girl I like to go out for dinner and a movie with me. Things went surprisingly well and by the end of the movie I finally managed to ask her to go out with me. She told me that I was sweet but she wasn’t looking for a long distance relationship. She said that she had tried that before with someone who lived 1 hour away and that he almost never called and she rarely saw him. She told me that I wasn’t being rejected and that she would like to do this again some time. She gave me a hug and a kiss on the cheek and we both went home. I told her if she ever moved back that I would still be here and this seemed to make her smile.

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2 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-07-11 01:18 ID:iUgi2m2h

For now keep doing stuff like this with her. When she gets there, keep calling her as usual so you both don't lose contact, then offer to drive the 2 hours to spend an afternoon with her. There, you might try again and tell her that you would have no problem doing this more often...

3 Name: The Desperate One : 2008-07-11 05:38 ID:AiWvPh2E

Thanks that sounds like good advice. At most I have another 2 or 3 weeks before she moves. What kind of things do people do on dates other than go to dinner and a movie? I don’t want to put to much pressure on her or make her feel uncomfortable.

4 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-07-11 06:48 ID:Du9I9YdX

There's alot. If you have doubts on what to do for a weekend, ask her. Ask her what she wants to do, where she wants to go, when she wants to go/do it. Once you've learned what her likes and dislikes, you can try to surprise her.

5 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-07-11 16:17 ID:Cp8u8S91

I could say i'm in stable relationship with my girl, despite the fact that we both currently live like on the other sides of the world. She's okay with it, since i promised i marry her and let her move to live with me here where i am next year. As for keeping contact; i try to call her everyday, but given the current situation of life i'm in, i'm not able to do that as often i would like to.

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6 Name: Zombie Puppy : 2008-07-11 17:29 ID:uYl9vWQx

Don't mean to burst your bubble, but she probably isn't interested in you; except for a friend.

Its usually the male figures in a relationship that "can't" do long term relationships. Mainly due to the need for direct physical contact (honesty hurts, sorry). However, woman pride themselves on being able to maintain a "emotional" relationship, so they are less likely to turn a long distance relationship down.

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7 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-07-11 20:50 ID:Heaven

Funny thing is in most (i can't say all because one of them is on your side) ldr I have know about (usually involving friends), the breakup comes from the girl. The thing is girls often need more cuddling than guys; and if you have masturbation for your immediate sexual urges, there's nothing that can replace a hug.

8 Name: The Desperate One : 2008-07-16 22:23 ID:AiWvPh2E

This will probably sound stupid but what are some good conversation starters or reasons to call. Would a girl find it weird if a guy she isn’t dating called just to see how she is doing?

9 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-07-16 22:44 ID:Heaven

Well, probably not. Though that might leave her wondering. Not that it's a bad thing, correct me if I'm wrong.

10 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-07-16 23:27 ID:0pXwG743

Hmmm... well the calling thing, I can't help you with since one of my problems with women is that I don't bother calling them at all unless I have a reason too.

( ;^_^) I'm not much of a phone person.

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11 Name: The Desperate One : 2008-07-17 03:49 ID:AiWvPh2E

I defiantly agree about the casual dating first. It would be weird to jump straight into a serious relationship. We both live in Maryland, she is going to Salisbury and I am in Columbia.

12 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-07-17 23:41 ID:zz94z1AO

lol I should have been more clear. I'm in L.A. so I dont know how it is over there. Is like a small town or a city?

But lemme think...

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