Ok so here is the deal. I am a 20 year old male and have never had a girlfriend. Yesterday I finally got the girl I like to go out for dinner and a movie with me. Things went surprisingly well and by the end of the movie I finally managed to ask her to go out with me. She told me that I was sweet but she wasn’t looking for a long distance relationship. She said that she had tried that before with someone who lived 1 hour away and that he almost never called and she rarely saw him. She told me that I wasn’t being rejected and that she would like to do this again some time. She gave me a hug and a kiss on the cheek and we both went home. I told her if she ever moved back that I would still be here and this seemed to make her smile.
For now keep doing stuff like this with her. When she gets there, keep calling her as usual so you both don't lose contact, then offer to drive the 2 hours to spend an afternoon with her. There, you might try again and tell her that you would have no problem doing this more often...
Thanks that sounds like good advice. At most I have another 2 or 3 weeks before she moves. What kind of things do people do on dates other than go to dinner and a movie? I don’t want to put to much pressure on her or make her feel uncomfortable.
There's alot. If you have doubts on what to do for a weekend, ask her. Ask her what she wants to do, where she wants to go, when she wants to go/do it. Once you've learned what her likes and dislikes, you can try to surprise her.
I could say i'm in stable relationship with my girl, despite the fact that we both currently live like on the other sides of the world. She's okay with it, since i promised i marry her and let her move to live with me here where i am next year. As for keeping contact; i try to call her everyday, but given the current situation of life i'm in, i'm not able to do that as often i would like to.
Don't mean to burst your bubble, but she probably isn't interested in you; except for a friend.
Its usually the male figures in a relationship that "can't" do long term relationships. Mainly due to the need for direct physical contact (honesty hurts, sorry). However, woman pride themselves on being able to maintain a "emotional" relationship, so they are less likely to turn a long distance relationship down.
Funny thing is in most (i can't say all because one of them is on your side) ldr I have know about (usually involving friends), the breakup comes from the girl. The thing is girls often need more cuddling than guys; and if you have masturbation for your immediate sexual urges, there's nothing that can replace a hug.
This will probably sound stupid but what are some good conversation starters or reasons to call. Would a girl find it weird if a guy she isn’t dating called just to see how she is doing?
Well, probably not. Though that might leave her wondering. Not that it's a bad thing, correct me if I'm wrong.
Hmmm... well the calling thing, I can't help you with since one of my problems with women is that I don't bother calling them at all unless I have a reason too.
( ;^_^) I'm not much of a phone person.
I defiantly agree about the casual dating first. It would be weird to jump straight into a serious relationship. We both live in Maryland, she is going to Salisbury and I am in Columbia.
lol I should have been more clear. I'm in L.A. so I dont know how it is over there. Is like a small town or a city?
But lemme think...