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Love is a strong word, help me think D: (10)


1 Name: Mitruki : 2008-08-15 23:23 ID:TisChc+E

Ok i sort of have this tiny prblem that i need help fixing.

Ok well i recently broke of with my b/f like 2 weeks ago. A good friend of mine who has been hlping me through it recently confessed that he was in love with me [i had no idea that he did so it was a bit surprising]He told me i was teh reason he broke up with his girl. I suppose to guilt me or something he told me that. I told him that i didn't feel the same and now when we talk he always tells me he does love me. I moved on from it and take it as a casual good-bye.[ i know that's bad] Another friend of mine made me meet his friend from england and well we got along great. Now i'm dating this british guy. I told my friend about it and now he hates my current b/f and is dating a girl to try to get my jealous. I want to tell his g/f but she loves him so i can't. On top of all this i reunited with an old friend and he confessed that he loves me. He told me last night and we were fighting about how i never noticed and how i'm so clueless to how he felt . I truly never knew and he kept telling me that he also loved me and was crying.

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2 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-08-15 23:42 ID:Heaven

1-find what you really want out of each situation
2-make that choice clear to every involved party
3-do not leave misunderstandings or quiproquos
4-do not give false hopes

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3 Name: Mitruki : 2008-08-15 23:51 ID:TisChc+E

So what gather them all up and tell how i feel to them ? That's seems easiest to me.

4 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-08-16 00:49 ID:cZehmQaC

when a girl is close friends with a guy, it's extremely hard for the guy not to be interested in being more than friends with the girl. To guys, female friends and male friends are completely different and usually means that he's waiting for an opening. Guys usually don't become close friends with girls they aren't interested in.

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5 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-08-16 00:51 ID:cZehmQaC

As for advice, you need to tell the other guys that you're not interested and am sorry if you gave them the wrong idea.

6 Name: rico : 2008-08-16 09:08 ID:Heaven

>>4
Ok, wtf is this shit, and why is it perpetuated so much on these boards?!!!

My best friend is a woman and I've never felt anything for her. When we first met, she apparently had a short crush on me, but now there is nothing. Even when we're both single, we feel for each other more like brother and sister than anything else. In fact, all of my closest friends are females. And really, I'm not gay or effeminate, I'm one of the most hetero guys I've met.

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7 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-08-17 05:52 ID:98fRxeXn

>>3
Lol, as you do with a staff meeting. Remember to bring the arrowroot cookies and coffee.

OP, you can't do anything about your girl friend's feelings without it turning out to be a huge sticky mess. Leave her to be, and hope that she comes to her senses (if the love is one sided, they will eventually break up). A real friend will be there for her to pick up the pieces. As for friend #1, he is being entirely immature and selfish. If you haven't made it clear to him that you're not interested, then do so. Otherwise, stay civil with him and do not in any way lead him on. Limit your conversations with him, and just generally keep at a distance. Lastly, childhood friend...sincerely apologise to him about you being oblivious to his feelings. Make sure however, that as much as you are sorry and value him, you do not reciprocate his romantic feelings for you. Put yourself in your boyfriend's shoes and think about how you would want him to act in your situation.

8 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-08-20 21:25 ID:sUK8Yj4G

>>3

i think you need to evaluate the situation.

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9 Name: Mitruki : 2008-08-20 23:24 ID:58YwEeCe

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O///O oh gracias!! Thanks all of you guys >_< [You ppl are much more reasonable than my friends lol] I took you advice and well here's what happened-

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10 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-08-21 05:21 ID:ac/lffH2

hey no problem its all good. glad we could help