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1 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-08-24 15:26 ID:uh9TRHT3

For some reason I keep falling in love with girls I get to know, who lives an inconvenient distance away from me.

I had a couple of interests that failed for being one-sided only, then I had something going with one, but she was too busy with school and work to stay in touch so it didn't actually go anywhere.

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2 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-08-24 17:33 ID:mtfIH2Sh

There've been a handful of discussions about this already... How peculiar!

In general, long-distance relationships aren't worth the time and energy. It requires too much commitment and patience for one to work out, way past the level of convenience most people are comfortable with. Even if you are willing to go through that, the other might not.

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3 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-08-24 18:02 ID:uh9TRHT3

I don't see the distance as a long term concern. At my age, people move around; for all I know we could even be living together in a year or so.

What bothers me is how I should approach her, as I don't want to confess my feelings for her online or by phone.

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4 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-08-25 04:47 ID:GMn4OMAQ

>>3
4 hours isn't that much of a LDR. I mean it's something you can cover in a night and back if need be. And you can do it to spend a day with her.

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5 Name: zero : 2008-08-26 09:23 ID:AxkVdnI+

this ldr stuff is a load of crap man you're investing all this energy into trying to get with a girl you may only be able to see on the weekends if even then?! are there no women you could go after a little closer to home. and you said this is a crush right have you even checked to see if she feels the same way you don't wanna invest alot of emotions for no return do you ?

6 Name: lichking84 : 2008-08-26 14:08 ID:k2RrVHnw

Long distance relationship won't work. I've been in touch with a friend for 10 years overseas and spent so much energy to get her to like me, she just won't budge. I gave up. I'd rather do something else than doing that crap.

7 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-08-26 22:28 ID:mtfIH2Sh

>>6

Obviously, it won't work if either of you aren't interested in developing a strong relationship. But then again, that's how it is with any relationship, so this is a normal concern rather than an exclusive long distance concern.

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8 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-08-27 03:02 ID:GMn4OMAQ

>>7

>Obviously, it won't work if either of you aren't interested in developing a strong relationship. But then again, that's how it is with any relationship, so this is a normal concern rather than an exclusive long distance concern.
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9 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-08-27 04:10 ID:mtfIH2Sh

>>8

Very very true. Like I said in >>2, I believe you should only attempt to pursue an LDR if you really truly believe this person is the absolute love of your life. Otherwise, I would advise against it.

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10 Name: Lichking84 : 2008-08-27 11:35 ID:k2RrVHnw

>>7

I was serious about LDR with her. She was hit by many misfortunes with relationships and that made her unable to trust guys anymore. One day, she clearly said to me that she doesn't want to be in b/f g/f relationship with me. So I had to let go. Why the hell should I keep going if she didn't want to? Whenever I chatted with her, she only talked about the guy who dumped her and that guy went back with his ex who happened to be the one that dumped him.
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