I'm a 20yr old female and I've never really dated. This was mostly my choice, because I had a couple oportunities but I shook them off.
The thing is, showing off afection/emotion isn't exactly a thing I do very often, and engaging on a relationship sort of scares me, because sharing my intimacy is a huge step. I guess I'm not mature enough (although this is such a lame excuse, there's plenty of people much way younger than me and already dated tons of times) - A bigger problem is the fact I'm not really sure what my sexual orientation is - I like boys, but one year ago I met this girl that totally shook my world. Couldn't get her off my mind, but very recently it has calmed down - we're not exactly friends.
You're a Bi when you're sexually attracted to both boys and girls. I am a guy and sometimes a kind of "melt inside" when I see a handsome dude, but I don't get a hardon and gay sex is a disgusting thought. So unless you get wet from thinking about that girl, I don't think you're Bi, she's just awesome.
Is this kind of guy more feminine? I am so gay and I think I wouldn't mind dating a more feminine, geeky, skinny guy.
well anyway, you sound a lot like me with the whole emotion/affection thing, I've been getting a better at it though. It really just takes practice to get used to it. In my case it was really just a problem with showing weakness, I associated sharing emotions and affection with others as a sign of weakness, when it is actually a really brave thing.
>2 The special type of guy, for example, the one I had a crush on for some months is by no means feminine. He's very handsome, has this great sense of humor and is very cool. There's this special twinkle in his eye, like he's up to something, you know?
>and as showing affection most of the times indicates maturity
My parents arent doctors. I had many alergy and asma when I was only 2 years old, so from that point on, I had to take medecine (obviously indicated to those problems, no kind of weird experiences, whatsoever you might be thinking), just the regular medecine you need to take to control the alergy and asma. Taking these kind of medecine since you're very young, my doctor said once, can very possible make my growing process more slow.
You should have tried harder with her. Seriously.
Did she tell you that? Because it's true I wasn't really trying very hard. But when I tried to give her a goodbye kiss, on the cheek, after a slightly weird "date", she backed away...
Guys, I know that being the way I am doesn't make things easier if a guy likes me and wants something with me.
But this is also a way of finding out if the guy really is interested on not - I guess I don't open myself very much because if I give too much away, it might ruin things, mainly if:
Well, as someone who is in the same situation from the opposite side, I would like to say that honestly I think you're expecting a bit too much. I hate to sound mean, but I'm telling you the truth. I know it may not be applicable, but as a guy in a relationship of this sort, he's probably thinking along the same lines as me.
"Janey" sorry but if a guy is shy or expects you to show interest in him too, it means he loves you and wants a honest relationship. You want a guy who doesn't care whether you want him or not and who nevertheless forces him on you? Fine, but that's asking to be used because such guys only want your body. But you will soon learn that.
As far as for being Bi, let me tell you... affection doesn't recognize sex. There is one girl that I melt for, but other then her I'm straight. I have a female friend who is dating a girl because she loves the girl so much that she makes an exception on her heterosexuality. Don't label yourself Bi over one girl.
>14 I'm 20, and interested in this girl, we've been hanging out with each other for about 6 months, getting along amazingly, but she's not really showing much in the way of any signs that she likes me. For all I know, she may just view me as a friend.
There's more to a romantic relationship than going to the cinema. Most people would go with pretty much anybody to the movies... I now think you're just simply 14 in your head too...
This is not an attack... I wish I could stay childminded forever...
>18 I do not think a romantic relationship is only going to the cinema - I was only saying the stuff we do together, and since we're not even on a romantic relationship, you got it quite wrong.
But that's about what we do. If we eventually hooked up together we'd obviously do other things. But we're not.
...Goldie, is that you?
OP, you totally remind me of someone I know at the very least.
sounds like your the perfect legal loli.
give me a date alright op?
>20 OP, you totally remind me of someone I know at the very least.
-Really? I wish I could know people that were similar to me, because everyone I know (people that are way younger, too) are more mature than me and never enjoy and understand fully when something's really hillarious - It's like I have fun all by myself.
Yeah um I too know a girl who is very very similar to you. So much so that I think it's you, she's been stalking me before so it's possible. If not, rest assured there's someone else just like you out there.
So it was you, haha :^D Awesome.
Details plz. Looks like things are getting more interesting.
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