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When should you say "I love you"? (12)


1 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-09-13 20:00 ID:/+tRPhLJ

See title. Just wondering. I've started dating someone and it's been almost a week. I was wondering when is it "safe" or something, I guess, to tell her I love her.

2 Name: 43 : 2008-09-13 21:18 ID:Heaven

You say it when you feel it. I seriously doubt you actually love her in "almost a week". How old are you? 16?

3 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-09-13 22:12 ID:/+tRPhLJ

OP here, 20 to be exact.

The thing is, though we've only been officially "dating" for about a week, we've hungout with each other, been friends, etc. for like, 6-7 months.

4 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-09-13 22:42 ID:FXQOzA4E

>when is it "safe" or something, I guess, to tell her I love her.

It's never safe. Ever.

5 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-09-13 22:56 ID:EQZFcElb

>>2 I agree with you.
Don't say "I love you" just because that's what they do in the movies. I've been together with my boyfriend for almost 4 years now and I said it..uhm, less than ten times, I would say. So did he.
The first time I told him that I LOVE him was at our first anniversary. It felt awesome. Of course - before I said stuff like "That's just because I love you so much" etc. - but looking him deep into the eyes and whisper "I love you", wow, that was something.

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6 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-09-14 02:21 ID:Heaven

>>5 there really isnt a subdued version if thats what you mean. very different from japanese, if you happen to speak that. telling someone you are fond of them, or that you like them, just sounds strange. the latter is done by children. you can imply love with other statements i guess? tell them that they are wonderful for example.

7 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-09-14 07:27 ID:QSNFSEQp

«I love you» is itself a «subdued version» of «I'm in love with you»...

You never say «I'm in love with mudkips»...

8 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-09-14 08:34 ID:EQZFcElb

>>6 I see, thank you. I'm German btw.
>>7 Ah, okay. Then please read:

>>but looking him deep into the eyes and whisper "I love you", wow, that was something.
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9 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-09-14 19:46 ID:EcopgH9h

i usually wait around 2 months. by that point i know if i love her

10 Name: Chris : 2008-09-23 09:17 ID:oofwrcRk

After you bang the hell out of her.

11 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-09-23 10:06 ID:lljnxORG

>>10 twat.

OP, love is very difficult to quantify like this... I "loved" my first girlfriend but the feelings I had for my next girlfriend were much stronger and I realised that what I felt for my first was not real love but I had not point of reference so at the time I said it I meant it.

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12 Name: fartman : 2008-10-06 21:23 ID:Wd+oML+F

>>1
when your girlfriend are sleeping with another guy