I'm heads over heels in love with a girl. I have been for over a year now. In the course of the year I have talked to her probably a grand total of 5 times. It's pathetic, I know.
But I get so nervous when I'm within a few feet of her. My mind completley blanks out, my heart starts pounding, and I can barley form coherent sentences. Now if you knew me you wouldn't believe a word I'm typing.
sounds like a typical high school situation. just to put it in perspective, if you arent going to end up at the same college, its going to be near impossible to hold a relationship together. even if you went up to her tomorrow, asked her out, and she went along with it.
Okay, it's good that you haven't talked to her that much in the course of a year. You need to keep momentum, but not go rushing in.
Number one issue: there's no need to be nervous around her. After all, she's not a supermodel, like you say. She's not an angel or a paradigm of humankind. If you watch her close or listen to he talk you'll see all kinds of imperfections and silly habits she has. In fact it's OK to let her catch you looking at her (but just barely) Talk to her like you would talk to your friends (minus the really crude jokes, keep it classy)
Thanks alot for the advice. I really appreciate it. :].
I understand that feeling of -walking to the electric chair when I simply walk past her-
I think you just should play it cool. There's a big chance she'll doubt your intentions ... if you're known as the party boy and she's pretty shy.
Funny, back in highschool this guy who I knew to be a party guy showed interest in me, a shy nerdy kinda girl. I rejected every single advance made by him and yeah, I pretty much doubted his intentions, probably because I knew very little about him in general. My advice is tell her you would like to get to know her as friends first. Let her get to know you as a person before you ask her out romantically.
Uh, I was in your situation.
I managed to work up courage, approached the girl, got her number, we went on a few dates.
Well today after mustering enough courage to take on Anderson Silva in the octagon I sorta waved at her while passing her in the halls, and giving her a shaky smile. I KNOW it sounds like nothing, but to me I felt like it was a huge accomplishment. She waved back at me in return, albeit hesitantly and without a smile. But it nevertheless made my day, and I was a giddy little preschooler for the rest of the day. =] Well now that the feelings of ecstasy have worn off, I have slightly more confidence and hopefully I'll be able to start a conversation next time I see her.
this sounds familiar like it happened to me before I remember that exact feeling and circumstance but why do I feel like hiding so bad.......
Be careful... I'll be in my closet
just say "hey, is it cool if i take you out to dinner or something sometime?"