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She's Never Free (7)

1 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-09-22 03:31 ID:6udoAeZv

The girl that I have a very casual relationship with is never free. She always has something to do, and it's never anything that has anything to do with me. I'm not being one of those clingy fucks. Our last date was a month ago, and we've spent all of two hours together since then, and half of that was just sitting there listening to someone else talk. Even though our relationship is very casual, I really like this girl, and I'd feel like a horrible person if I just started dating someone else, though it would probably take her a while to find out.

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2 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-09-22 03:34 ID:Heaven

Whatever you do, talk to the girl you're actually with first. Tell her the situation doesn't suit you, see if she wants to do something about it.

If she doesn't, then consider breaking up to be able to go with the other girl.

3 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-09-24 07:55 ID:oYcyt6Kw

Break up with the girl first, because that's cheating.
And it'll make her feel really shitty after.
Be all honest with her. Say you like her, but need more time with her and don't want to pull her away from her for filling her full potential, so you think it'd be best just to end it, so you can both see other people.

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4 Name: bingo : 2008-09-25 05:45 ID:mCHQU8+3

yeah, what #3 said. You and the person you are dating are clearly not working out. Don't be dishonerable by chasing after the other girl while you still are with this one. Be honest, be kind, let her go and date the foreign cutie.

5 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-09-28 06:47 ID:pIuoMF6V

Your girl is not really interested in you. A good sign to see how interested a girl is, is her willingness to spend time with you and to sacrifice her time to do it. If she doesn't want to spend time with you, then she doesn't care about you. Drop her and go after the other girl.

6 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-09-28 17:35 ID:Ev9FUvoF

>>3 is an idiot. Please, don't do this. It should never be your goal to make her feel "shitty" as he put it. Why should you? Because she wants to enjoy her clubs?

Are you guys really dating or did you just go on one or two dates? For a casual relationship, you are sounding pretty clingy. If it's casual then you guys can go out whenever it is convenient. Get it? It seems to me right she is more interested in clubs and friends right now than dating. So there.

7 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-09-28 20:01 ID:nI1Y/N/C

This is >>1, and yes, I understand this. What I'm trying to get at, this is not what I want from a relationship. Well, actually, it is totally what I want from a relationship, but it is not what my friends want from a relationship. So while I want to hang out with my friends, they're now spending all of their time with their partners, so I'm sitting home, alone, naked, thinking too much about my current situation, and wanting to do something, and not being able to do something, and knowing someone that I could be doing something with, but not being able to do anything with her because I'm already not doing something with someone else.

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