Return - Entire thread - Last 10 posts

ugh (7)


1 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-09-29 02:00 ID:d3Axw17C

so, igot a gfand she's awesome.
only problem is, that whenever we schdule to have a date she goes and invites her friends without telling me.
like tonight, she went to a retreat with some of her friends. she came back tonight, and me and her were gonna go out after i got off work. but now, she's bringing her ex bf and her best guy friend.

Entire post...

2 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-09-29 03:06 ID:ioMneEGt

Have you talked to her to tell her that you want to have some private dates?
If you're already together I can't imagine she'd object to that.

3 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-09-29 03:17 ID:DYRpzgJ2

That's pretty fucked up.

4 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-09-29 03:23 ID:dS9jWUPk

Maybe this is a subtle hint. She wants her ex back but one of her gfs has a crush on you and she wants to hook you guys up.

5 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-09-29 04:58 ID:mVrQ6l2f

>>4
Agh, don't make the guy paranoid.

Yes, OP, it's ok for you to feel pissed right now. I'd be pissed if I were in that situation. The best thing OP could do is have an open and honest (and calm) conversation about it. Don't be offensive or defensive about it; don't start out with something like, "I don't want you bringing your girlfriends/guyfriends/ex around when we've got something planned," and certainly don't insult any of them. Stay neutral and make certain to stress that you really want to be with her, exclusively. Tell her you'd like her to tell you in advance that her friends would be joining you and tell her that you would appreciate it if she asked how you felt about them tagging along before she invites them in the first place. Just talk to her lovingly and tell her how you really feel. If she gets pissed with you over it, then there's definitely something deeper troubling your relationship here and you two have to find out what that thing is.

6 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-09-29 20:09 ID:2umu400C

what

7 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-09-29 21:12 ID:Heaven

the hell? so am i to take it youve never actually been on a date? any people outside of you two that arent a couple themselves pretty much changes it from a date into an ordinary social gathering.

if you called her for a 'date' and she goes and invites her friends along, youre not her boyfriend. her bringing along an ex and another guy friend is just flat out disrespecting you. get the fuck away from her.