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After the break up. (8)

1 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-10-21 05:15 ID:0CIYC+E5

so here's what happened,

about 2 months ago i met what seemed like the most perfect girl in the world.
i asked her out and quickly after that we started to date as boyfriend and girlfriend.

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2 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-10-21 06:53 ID:qjeeMOeq

In my experience, there is no such thing as just being friends. Keep that in mind. Also I have learned if a girl really likes you she will do anything for you, even going against her parents wishes. Another thing to keep in mind...

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3 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-10-21 08:41 ID:9pNCkrwO

>>2 is spot on. You can't be just friends with her, because you still have feelings for her. I think you should explain this to her, so that she understands it. You will be able to be friends with her only when you stop loving her.

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4 Name: been there : 2008-10-22 00:31 ID:3s4L8tjl

Just like your chances of winning a high-valued prize at raffles, its not impossible, but extremely unlikely that after a break up, the two participants can go back to being friends... hell, if that happens, they end up being really good friends because all they've gone through. BUT if you're not one of those lucky ones, then really, "let just be friends" is just a way to say, "goodbye and have a good life"
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5 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-10-22 02:01 ID:Po7iHs/l

similiar thing happened to me, me and my girlfriend dated for almost 2 months and her parents make us break up. we decided to stay friends but after a while her parent gives us their blessing because they see how unhappy she was after breaking up. and now we're back together again.

6 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-10-22 05:37 ID:0CIYC+E5

thanks guys for your advice.
and im sure you know this stuff isn't anything i want to hear.
im still waiting for the "keep up the hope dude! everything will be fine and you guys will get back together." but i know its never going to come and that its never going to happen.

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7 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-10-22 08:39 ID:9pNCkrwO

>>6 no surprise in what you describe. You're experience the pain of lovesickness. As mentioned before, reduce exposure, that's all you have to do, and it's pretty simple.

And don't use the other guy as an excuse to continue dealing with her life. It's not up to you to do that anymore, and you have enough to deal with already.

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8 Name: been there : 2008-10-22 22:54 ID:3s4L8tjl

first of all, for >>6
"dont worry dude! you'll be fine! eventually."

but it takes a while to become fine, I know for some people, they'll be fine the week after the breakup, it really depends on you. For me, it took me well over 6 months to finally get over the breakup. The first month was pure hell, I couldn't study, could barely wake up in the mornings, and no matter what i did, EVERYTHING reminded me of him, he was the only thing on my mind and I thought I would never get over him. Oh by the way, the last thing he said to me was "we'll still be friends right?"

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