It's very hard to find that in a guy.
I'm married and i'm only 21.
Got a guy like you want, and i felt the same as you before.
Maybe there's hope but it's seems that's imposible to have a guy smart and that have a high sex drive.
Most guys give that excuse because they feel... like tiny.
I mean, it's like "Omg, she's so horny!, i can't please her... I GIVE UP"
It creates insegurity in them, so it's very hard.