I get what SiMO is trying to say here... I watched VH1's The Pick Up artist and they give some pretty good advice.
http://www.vh1.com/video/play.jhtml?id=1595865&vid=166894
Check out how to open a set and pep talk. To tell the truth, I tried this once, but I failed haha. Keep in mind that I gave up after that one, but maybe you can make it work. You're a few steps ahead of me anyways. Good luck