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Help w/ girl issue? (14)

1 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-11-07 01:55 ID:gNW1ib0O

It's my first year in high school and I like a girl. Since I'm in an enriched French program (I'm in a school in Quebec), more than half of my classes are with her (she's also in the program). I eventually just hang out with her more, our lockers are relocated so that I'm beside her (lucky), our "Future Careers" class also has relocated me beside her (again lucky), I did a whole project with her from a randomly selected group of people (even more lucky) and we just spend most of those classes chatting with each other. At lunch breaks, she, her friends and I head off school grounds to buy junk at the local convenience store and we're generally friends, although I have plans to ask her out. Some other guy I only heard about three days ago asks her out before I do and they've been in the relationship for about two days now. I'm kind of bummed, but now I'm stuck thinking about how long that relationship between him and her will last anyway. But since she's spending more time with him I'm worried that my current time with her will deteriorate and she might even be with him for the rest of the year!

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2 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-11-07 02:58 ID:7bqZiKCk

they last on the scales of weeks. a long high school relationship are ones that last months.

3 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-11-07 03:33 ID:LosCIqcV

Well, I've been in a few gigh school relationships...
the first one lasted three months, the second lasted eleven months, and the third lasted about three and a half months. but I have friends who have a new boyfriend every week. my relationships have lasted longer than most, basically.
The best you can do is be the best friend you can to her. Always think about what you can do to make her happy and help her out. Chances are, she and this guy will break up after a while, and if you're a good enough friend she'll turn to you for comfort.

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4 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-11-07 07:34 ID:Heaven

It's rare, but sometimes high school relationships can last years and basically be THE relationship,... But it's unlikely that it will be the case. For the rest, I think >>3 got it.

5 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-11-07 09:35 ID:VguZEgLg

They last until college.

6 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-11-07 15:56 ID:AmF5tbEt

>>5 again, there are exceptions,... Also, there are college relationships that last beyond college. But any major transition in life increases the risk of provoking the termination of an existing relationship.

7 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-11-07 21:05 ID:RikQHl3q


yes there are exceptions, I can name all the high school relationships that have lasted on 1 hand. The reason why they don't last is because at the stage in life you are pretty immature. It is more likely for a relationship to last after college but still it is difficult.

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8 Name: XCDX3R0 : 2008-11-09 11:19 ID:z2MMAte2

High School relationships don't last long at all! Some get lucky and make it to college. People change over the course of time and within a relationship, the girl or guy wants a change or something new causing a split.

you'll get over her. the best part i must admit to you is that even though you 2 became good friends, you weren't emotionally attached as if you 2 were actually going out. what you just experienced is a minor bump in the road. accept what happened, let go, find someone new. the worst thing you can do is keep hoping she breaks up with him or help for them 2 split, Shit happens and maybe they will break up. who knows, you're still young, you got a long ways to go

9 Name: Anonymous : 2008-11-11 03:57 ID:V3yOH9ki

Happened to me. You could always hope that they would split and she'll go back to you, but the odds are usually 1/million. I agree with XCDX3R0, let it go.

10 Name: Kung Fu Man : 2008-11-14 03:20 ID:s5f3hLM3

Okay... how about this... If you really like her that much try to steal her away! (^_^)b
That was my biggest mistake in my high school years... I was hesitant to ask out the girl I was good friends with like you and it turns out I never got the chance to. Take the initiative, I mean don't be so bummed out about it. Though it may seem wrong now, isn't it possible you can make her happier than she is with this random guy? GO FOR IT! FIGHT!

11 Name: Sakurina : 2008-11-14 15:32 ID:Heaven

On average, high school relationships last about 3 months.

12 Name: Anonymous : 2008-11-16 07:23 ID:V3yOH9ki

FIGHT MAN!!!! FIGHT!!!! Do just what Kung Fu Man said!!!!!!

13 Name: XCDX3R0 : 2008-11-17 00:02 ID:meButJXH

why fight and "steal" her away from a guy who had the balls to go after her first. no means of disrespect to anyone.

it's just highschool...if you plan on trying to get with her when shes with another guy, that's f***ed up. If you do steal her, well that would not be the kind of girl you'd want to date. Because it's high school she'll just find someone else who wants her more than you do

14 Name: XCDXER0 : 2008-11-17 04:35 ID:Hds0WZEF

i apologize if i came off hard but just like i said with otakun. I know it must be hard for you, but it's highschool, so much more to experience, to live for, to see.
Do what you think you should do but accept the consequences whether it is positive and negative. Good Luck. =P