I just started posting here and everyone seems to be great with the advice, so now I'm asking for help! Heres the thing, theres this girl I used to like in high school who so happened to be a good friend. She eventually started going out with another of my friends during high school up till now in college, but it seems like they've been having a rocky relationship lately.
no im saying that if you plan on getting with her, then its bad. it's not called giving up. its called doing the right thing. i'm sure you're a nice guy but why do u want to go after her still if she is already dating someone else...?
I agree with XCDX3R0, you don't just take another guy's girlfriend. I'm a girl myself and I hate guy's who do that. Look at yourself, do you want to remember that if she leaves him for you, you are called a rebound.
Just to let you know, I'm XCDX3R0 friend that is next to him. Giving my own 2 cents on this topic.
OK, so I know how you feel, I'm pretty much the "nice guy" and all for several years, so I totally know where you're getting at, but seriously trying to take a girl that is taken is wrong. Think of it like this, would you like someone taking her from you when she is with you? I'm pretty sure you wouldn't want that to happen. Another thing, just because she asked you to go to the movies, it really doesn't mean anything. People invite people all the time to movies and other places to hang out, but that doesn't mean anything other then "Yay, we are hanging out together." Even if it is just you two, it doesn't mean anything other then you guys are going on a date as friends. Couples fight all the time, it happens, relationships is something where both partners have to cope with. Give them time and see what happens. If she DOES break-up with him, it doesn't necessarily mean that she stopped loving him, actually time apart from an argument could cause them to realize how much they actually need each other and yeah....
Alright everyone, before I even read what you guys just said I realized how stupid I was being and how unethical it was. I'm just some overthinking idiot for even considering it. Man I feel dumb, anyways you're all right and its good to see that you guys were so truthful and honest with me. Thanks, I'm moving on now and trying to do things the honest way. Our encounter on friday will be nothing more than friends also. You know the catch up and such.
Don't go out with girls that have been with your friends without talking to them about it first. EVER.
I let you imagine how that rule applies if said friend is still with her. Good thing you gave up.
Yeah, I've always been the type that gets a little ahead of themselves when it comes to love and such. Its just that lately I've just been seeing how empty my life has been. Constantly playing video games and watching anime to fill in what I'm missing. Right now I'm trying to change myself you know? I want to be more social, I want to follow my dreams, and most importantly fall in love. Ahaha I feel a little weird writing this now, but 4 channel is really giving me lots of inspiration right now. Thanks all of you for being brutally honest with me and I hope you guys could continue giving me great advice. Especially from stopping me from doing something stupid again.
only dating takes time. I've never actually experienced it but I'd assume it takes time because not everyone go online everyday to check on stuff like that.
so don't sweat it, give it some time, but i still advocate that you find a girl within a 20+- miles radius of you rather than online. because there is so much more plus sides.
Forget this online dating stuff ^_^
check out my new thread guys if you're still reading this