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1 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-01-19 08:00 ID:LQeBjQI1

There's this girl I know. Since I'm posting here, you guys can probably guess how I feel about that. We got to know each other through mutual friends, hit it off, et cetera, et cetera. Except! In all of those instances in which we hit it off, it was in a group setting. Lately, we've been getting lunch with each other at least once a week, during which we just... talk.

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2 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-01-19 12:11 ID:1zZgdU64

Just act how you normally would. If you can think past her as an object to be desired or sought or some very attractive girl, etc., then you can start to think of her as a human, or a mind on the same level, I suppose, as you, though that would depend upon your respective intelligences. As for how you'd do this, if you can't do it straight away, then spending more time with her will gradually lead to you putting more trust in her, etc., and eventuating in your being able to talk to her normally.

3 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-01-19 14:20 ID:mTRJH6pG

Like >>2 says:
You need to learn to socialize with your partner, which obviously is totally different from a group situation. Like always, the best in those situations is to do something that both of you enjoy, so that you forget the stress of the one to one situation and start bonding without effort: listen to music you both like, same for movies, or any outdoors/indoors activity. This is like learning to walk or to bike, practice makes perfect

4 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-01-20 02:44 ID:LQeBjQI1

I just find it very, very odd that I'm fine around her when there's someone else we know around.

Yeah, I'm the OP.