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Mother found out...I just feel horrible. (12)


1 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-01-31 04:30 ID:v/YnAsa8

I've been in a long distance online relationship for several months now. I'm seventeen, and the boy is nineteen. My mother has expressed an EXTREME disapproval of internet dating, and because of this, I've played our romance off as a friendship.

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2 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-01-31 06:50 ID:oAgEyYpE

Your mother is dominating you. Depending upon the legal age for moving out, which I think you should have passed, move out. Now, don't be hasty about marriage. I strongly advise against it. I'm against marriage in the first place, but that isn't directly relevant to this. Move out and start working part time to support study if you study, otherwise get a job, and try to have a physical close distance relationship with this guy first if you really love him. See how things go.

3 Name: wen : 2009-01-31 16:48 ID:IUzpI419

we... patience is the key, if ur parent dun want u to have a internet relatiionship, then dont mention ur relationship in the front of ur mother, wait until ur boyfriend back to ur side, and then u can disscuss about it.

I am also have a long distance a relationship for 6 month, and I`ll have another 6 month before I can back to my country, and my parent doesnt care about it, we re both adult (21++) and we know which best for us.

4 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-02-05 19:33 ID:v/YnAsa8

OP here, it's really starting to become a problem...

Every single day since this has happened, I have been insulted and yelled at by my mother. She hasn't hit me since the incident, but the verbal abuse is more than enough to nearly cripple my enthusiasm for life in general.

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5 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-02-05 20:58 ID:zIInjHXi

I would suggest that you reach child abuse help lines. They will be able to provide you with useful advice.

Your mother is clearly being abusive, and probably the best way to adress this is to use a neutral intermediate. I think a professional psychotherapist would help, as it would remove her from the dominating position (older, legal tutor, etc).

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6 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-02-05 22:48 ID:kOx+7kDt

Get the fuck out of there. Call a child abuse help line and ask them for help. Explain the situation to a friend, and ask if you can stay at their house. Your mother's behavior is unacceptable, and you aren't safe with her right now.

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7 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-02-06 06:38 ID:W9aqgVbh

Agree with >>5 and >>6. It's child abuse.

>>3 seems not to have read the entire post. Terrible advice.

8 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-02-06 07:08 ID:ad4yavjj

Unless you live in the same city or even state I can almost guarantee he is using you.

9 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-02-06 14:31 ID:v/YnAsa8

>>8

What makes you say such a thing?

10 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-02-13 04:07 ID:Y3jk8ncR

your mom want's to make sure that the boy you're dating right now is a good boy with prospect or not...

see... i even don't know you all just from internet, and vice versa... you don't know me either.

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11 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-02-13 04:47 ID:CLwkNBgT

Because your mom is being physically abusive, and you say the verbal abuse is really terrible, you should call the child abuse hotline and try to leave, or at least as soon as possible.

But, as a 17-year-old, you're young yet. Your mother may be harsh and possibly abusive, but online relationships CAN be risky. Your mom does have somewhat justified concerns.

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12 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-02-13 11:30 ID:FghS+LCA

I second >>10 and >>11

  1. online dating is risky
  2. Ur mum is just worried and i believe shes just too afraid that what she can do is to set u straight physically and harsh verbally
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