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I HAVE TROUBLE I NEED ADVICE (23)


1 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-02-09 02:35 ID:qJFce7RH

There was this guy. What we both had in common was both of us liked anime. The Primary reason we became friends.
Then, He even helped me to prepare for my exams and gave me question papers; even gave me anime series.
We had good times.

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2 Name: sane : 2009-02-09 04:25 ID:e3MRhiRg

Just be honest about your concern and ask directly about the problem.

In bringing this up, reference your history,thus reminding him of trust and bonds.

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3 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-02-10 03:33 ID:j+2Z3Bf8

>>2 I would; but he seems grouchy even in normal conversation lately.
The level of Japanese he is on; he's under pressure because of that.

I think I'll just keep away from him for sometime.

4 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-02-10 13:48 ID:29Fes1vG

Confront him, don't run away. Misunderstandings can lead to bad, bad results.

5 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-02-14 13:42 ID:WZSvhh2S

>>4 Confronting him....There are two ways to do that; either in person or over the phone;
In person- I don't think I have enough time to do it in class;
*I only see him in his 15 minute break; which he needs to eat :(

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6 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-02-14 18:05 ID:B+VJT04b

I think you made it clear he was friend and sempai, but if sempai no longer applies, try actually treating him as an equal. ; )

Be fair, what does he treat you as? An annoying sis or a lover? He may want more or need to talk over some event; you'd be surprised how often a relationsip can be misconstrued. J/E, I know the type. ;)

7 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-02-14 18:09 ID:B+VJT04b

BTW, be certain to tell him to talk to you sometime, but be mature about it.

Don't just leave it as is, but don't cower or obsess. After that any problem is his fault.

8 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-02-16 01:50 ID:6ze07wB0

sorry if i'm wrong....
from what i read...
you two haven't been a lover yet... am i right?

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9 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-02-16 02:28 ID:+u6Vds8k

>>6 Equal sounds fine :)

>>7 How do I do that? How do I ask him to talk?
Lately he doesn't even respond to any kind of message; be it chat or text message.

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10 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-02-17 02:34 ID:6ze07wB0

i'm >>8 poster~

is it okay for you to be just his "friend"?
won't it hurt you for not doing your best to express how much you cared for him?

11 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-02-18 03:57 ID:fx3B3q6a

>>10 I think I'd rather remain as a friend;
It can't be anything more even if I wanted it to;
Because he ain't that kind.
If I want it to be what I want it to be;

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12 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-02-18 16:42 ID:YNz/xV1p

>>10 When I called him yesterday; He didn't answer the phone.
Came back after watching TV an hour later; I saw 2 missed calls from him.
Did the math; he called 15 minutes after I left the phone.

13 Name: number 8 : 2009-02-20 04:41 ID:6ze07wB0

hmm...
it's okay to be true about your feelings.
and i think it's better for you to tell him than hurting yourself.
i don't think he would be hurt if he knows about it.

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14 Name: number 8 : 2009-02-20 08:23 ID:6ze07wB0

oops... >i bothers your feelings right?
i mean "IT bothers your feelings right?"
sorry 'bout that~

15 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-02-22 17:25 ID:EVM+uXE2

>>13 Thank you for backing me up. I'm happy you understand...

16 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-02-22 17:31 ID:EVM+uXE2

>>13 Just back me up a little while longer; atleast till I see where this is going? I'll see him on Sunday.
This is my first time with this sort of thing you see...

17 Name: fartman : 2009-03-01 02:25 ID:PxOx21JS

maybe u can gently tell him u will leave him because u rnt happy with him. he might realise how bad he was to u and become better then.

yelling at u is a big problem. probably he gets pressured by u though u dont think u havent done anything wrong to him.

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18 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-03-08 16:32 ID:Cq0kN6qx

>>17 I've been thinking about it; and I think I'll wait...
I have a feeling everything's gonna be fine :)

19 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-03-16 01:56 ID:prQwi/bL

>>17 Guess what? Yesterday, he said he was sorry he yelled at me :)

20 Name: G : 2009-03-16 05:08 ID:6w7lkrvT

>>19

Stop reading into his behavior and just be supportive. He'll appreciate it.

21 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-03-23 16:22 ID:k/KD18kT

>>20 I'm missing all the fun times we had.

22 Name: gen3 : 2009-03-25 12:42 ID:uDGFekbZ

he just have some ups and down. just understand him for a while ^_^

23 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-03-26 05:07 ID:yv6kOdNx

>>22 Sure...I'll do that :)