Hay, Romance. To be honest I don’t think that you can help me but I really need to let all this out. My story is rather average. I’m a 20 year old college student and I have been single for my entire life. When I say single I mean VERY single. I have liked several girls to greater or lesser degrees. Unfortunately nothing has ever come from this. To my knowledge no girl has ever been interested in me. Every single time I either end up in the friend zone or I am completely discounted. It doesn’t help that all of this rejection has exacerbated my all ready introverted nature. I talk to a small number of people, most of whom don’t interact with each other. Of these people I only consider one of them to be a real friend. I have tried very hard to be optimistic but it gets harder every day. It seems like these days any girl I might be interested in is already in a relationship. All around I see people holding hands and standing close and enjoying each other’s company, and I feel so jealous it hurts. It is starting to seem like I don’t even show up on women’s radar, their eyes just seem to skate right over me like I’m not even worth considering. My social life is nonexistent, and sense I live an hour away from campus, participating in campus life is almost impossible. Like I said, I don’t think that you can help but it is nice to know that people will listen and can probably understand. I hope that you can all have more luck than I am having.
>>1 Hey dude, I know how that feels. I'm one year behind you and I've yet to have a relationship either. I've liked girls in the past but it seems that no one's ever liked me. It sucks. It sucks more when you see people that are in a relationship and you wonder what the fuck you're doing wrong and why you just don't have any luck. It really hurts like hell sometimes, not that I mean to complain but, hey, there it is.
If it makes you feel any better, I feel the same way you do, and I'm only in high school.
I may be female, but that doesn't mean I don't have my fair share of crap going on in my life.
ITS NOT HOPELESS
I too am a 20 year old in college who has been single her entire life. People tell me I'm pretty so I must not be completely hideous. But I've yet to be in a relationship at all....
>>1 dont be a pansy, you got to be the best to get the best.
>>3 , >>2 here. I didn't mean that girls are immature and guys are supposed to be super mature, paragons of the human race. I agree with you, many many males are absolute trash. All they want is sex and they don't care about the feelings of the girl. All I meant to say is that from what I've seen is that many girls it seems, even at that age, are still immature enough to go for the "bad boy," instead of the quiet nice guys like us who really would care about them. I guess I'm just frustrated that I've spent my life trying to be a gentleman and all the girls seem to want the bad boy. It's bullshit and not fair. Besides, you seem to be assuming that because you're mature, you represent the rest of female kind; you don't. Just like I don't represent all males in trying to be a nice guy. It seems that for the most part, both sexes are comprised mostly of idiots: either immature males who only want to use women for sex and the girls who aren't mature enough to say fuck off to those kinds of guys. Then the rest of us are spread so thin that it's hard for nice people to meet each other. At least this is my experience; hence, why I'm so depressed about my love life.
I definitely have noticed what you mean. The majority of men and women seem to be idiots. The hard part for me isn’t finding the nice girls, I see nice girls or at least girls who seem nice all the time. There are only two problems.
1) These girls often already have boyfriends, most of whom are far better looking and more socially exiting than I am.
2) When I finally do meet a single nice girl who is willing to talk with me I get friend-zoned.
>>9 You have to feel like you are the most important person in the room.
For inspiration, check out Lil Wayne in Pop Bottles, or 50 Cent in I get money. These are both good examples of how to get your swag on.
to poster #5
i'm a twenty something female and since i've never been with a guy before i hope he is inexperienced as me. if he was really experienced i think i'd feel anxious and pressured all the time.
there is hope, but it involves some effort and sweat on your side. You just need to reach out more for people you are interested in. If you shut yourself and hide on a corner, there's no chance someone will take an interest in you, considering there are plenty of other people around who don't make things so difficult for themselves.
ugh... dont u guys think this will be a major world-wide problem in the future?
I’m not sure that putting myself out there is the best idea. While girls do tend to like me when they get to know me, I’m not the kind of guy a girl gets excited about when he just approaches out of the blue. I usually come off as awkward, socially inept, and a little pathetic.
You need to define what is "hiding in a corner" and what is "taking advantage".
>>15 If at a party you sit in a corner, and don't speak with other people unless directly addressed to, you're hiding in a corner. You must actively initiate communication with others, without being a bother (that's a social skill you need to develop by training).
>>ugh... dont u guys think this will be a major world-wide problem in the future?